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Definitely wouldn't look weird. It's very common to have the dates of the bridal party sitting at the head table, and it will probably make both your groomsman and his girlfriend much more comfortable!!
I agree with amanda.lynn. Spouses or girlfriends of the bridal party usually sit at the head table with the attendants.
I think that would be just fine! And it's wonderful of you to go out of your way to make her feel included.
I dont think it would look weird. If you were open to the idea you could do a sweetheart table for just you and your husband and have the bridal party and each of their dates sit at tables next to you.
i would love to do this, but all of our bridal party is either married/engaged/attached, and theres no way to fit everyone around one table...and we do not want a sweetheart table.
Thats a very sweet gesture on your end but I dont think you should let her sit with the wedding party. there will be im sure lots of people who dont know each other at the wedding, I have yet to attend a wedding where i knew who every single person was. I dont think you should cater to her needs especially since you dont know her that well.
We are sort of having a sweetheart table. We are going to git on a table with both our parents. The wedding party table will be close by.
I really want my friend's girlfriend to feel included. For a long time everyone thought she was shy and maybe didn't like the stuff we like doing but now we understand more why she doesn't hang out with us. I think she does want to hang out with us but she fears us all in a lot of ways. Our friend said he was a bit embarrassed to tell about her mental health problems. I have a cousin who is bipolar and she always fears people rejecting her. Our friend says he plans to tell out other friends who are in the wedding party about what is going with her. I do hope none of them stigmatize her.
My vote is NO. the girlfriend will be in all your pictures if you let her sit w/ the wedding party table.
from a selfish perspective - if that was my friend, i wouldn't want a girl he is "currently" dating to be in my pictures that are suppose to last forever and the girlfriends comes and go. Unless it is his WIFE then i would consider it. otherwise, i would not want a stranger in my picture for the rest of my list in such important "wedding party" table pictures.
i think is fine and there should not be any trouble
I thought you were doing a wedding party table with you, your husband and the bridal party. If you are sitting with both sets of parents and the bridal party is at another table its perfectly fine to have everyone sit with their dates or husbands/wifes.
I'm having a boyfriend and a wife of two of our people sit with us. It kind of hurts my control-freak, perfectionist heart..lol, but I figured oh, well, what's the big deal. Seems silly to make them sit apart during dinner when as soon as the party part starts everyone moves around anyway... everyone will have fun, no matter where they sit..
i'd definitely let the girlfrient sit with the groomsmen. we're having our bridal party sit with their dates and other friends, ie splt up into friend groups and no head-table, as fi and i will sit with our parents and siblings--for me, it's more important that everyone be comfortable and have fun than almost anything else
Our wedding party pictures will probably be taken at church after the wedding and around the wedding cake at the reception. There will be reception pictures but I don't think there will be any official pictures of the wedding party at the table.
As you are one of the hosts for the wedding, it would be a very gracious move on your part. Honestly, I haven't seen a wedding party-only table in a long time. Since you're doing a sweetheart table, yours will be the table getting the most attention anyhow :)
@finallygettingmarried - I think that was a really selfish thing to say! Who cares if she is in pictures forever??? Shouldnt it be more important that you are spending time with that particular groomsman and that he is enjoying himself. Where would she sit if not at the table with her boyfriend???
I say let her sit with everyone, it will make her feel included and will hopefully help to relieve some of that anxiety. I suffer from anxiety disorder and if I were sitting without my fiance at a wedding where I didnt know anyone, I would be very uncomfortable and probably want to go home.
@Clarebee: I agree. Besides, a wedding is a snapshot of your life the way it is at that moment. If someone's wife were at the wedding, and they got divorced, would you be mad about those pictures? It's just how it goes. Of course, let her sit with her boyfriend! I think it's a great idea.
If this were my wedding and my situation I know 100% I would have her sit with the wedding party - I know other people are set on having a wedding party table, and that's fine, but I would absolutely have her sit with her boyfriend - they've been together a year, it seems like you like her (even if she's been insecure and shy around you), and she won't really know anyone else. I've gone to a lot of weddings with my partner as a groomsman before we got engaged, and we were always seated together. The few stories I've heard from friends who got seated separately, people always ended up really unhappy about it.
I agree with mitla pictures are snapshots of life at a certain moment in time. We can never predict what will happen in the future. One or both of the married couples in my wedding party could get divorced years from now or maybe my friend and his girlfriend will be married someday.We don't know what the future holds for us.
My parents for awhile regreted their choice of godparents for me. My aunt and her ex-husband were my baptism godparents. A few years later they divorced and I have only seen him a few times since then. My parents later accepted that the choices they made were done.
I do like my friend's girlfriend Entangled. She is nice to us even though she is shy and has her own issues. She is a very talented artist and offered a painting as a wedding gift. I just hope our other friends who are in the wedding party will accept her. I know how the stigma of mental illness effects people.
I wouldn't make the decision based on pictures, but I agree that it would be akward. Other dates aren't sitting with you, so she'll probably feel singled out. I think you should convey that you are understanding that she cares about you and her boyfriend, and that it's ok to not attend if she doesn't feel comfortable. Saying that she'll sit with the head table might make her feel pressured to attend.
When we went to our best man's wedding, FH (boyfriend at the time) was best man. The only people I knew were my boyfriend/husband, the bride, and groom. They had all the significant others sit at the head table. It made the wedding SO MUCH MORE FUN for me. We decided to return the favor, and had all the dates of our wedding party sit with us. Those are the people who have been there for us, and we want their significant others to have a good time. Everyone was happy, and it caused no problems whatsoever. The funniest thing was I was telling all the significant others that their placecards weren't out with the rest of them, and the wife of the best man (who did the same thing at their wedding) was so excited, saying, "That's great! I thought I would be at the awkward singles table."
Yes! Especially if you and your FH will be sitting at a table with your parents. I think that in general people would be very appreciative if they could sit next to their spouses/SO at a wedding. Can you just let all of the spouses/SO sit next to the people in the wedding party though? If you let one, you should probably let all of them.
I wouldn't worry about the pictures though. There will be plenty of pictures with just you, your husband, and your wedding party before the reception. It seems like when you see pictures of receptions in general it is more just capturing the moments, which generally includes people mingling.
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Hi everyone I am new to the boards. My finance and I will be getting married in June. We have two married couples and two dating couples in our wedding party. The fifth bridesmaid and groomsman that are paired together each have a boyfriend and girlfriend. We invited both of them to the wedding. The fifth bridesmaid's boyfriend recently got orders to do some Air Force training in Korea so he will not be able to attend the wedding. The fifth groomsman has been a close friend of my fiance since childhood. I also consider him a good friend too. He recently told his that his girlfriend doesn't feel like attending the wedding. They have been dating for a year but she rarely comes over to get togethers. She always seemed shy. Our friend revelead to us that she suffers from anxiety disorder, depression and a mild form of bipolar disorder. He said that she has a hard time try fitting in with people because she thinks that she is too awkward or weird for others to accept her. She gets paranoid about a lot of things.
We originally planned to have a table for her, the bridesmaid's boyfriend and the parents of the groomsman and bridesmaid to all sit together. at the reception. Our friend told us that his parents won't be able to attend the wedding due to an out of state family reunion that was recently planned and he feels that his girlfriend will feel really left out sitting with people she doesn't know that well and combined with her mental health issues she doesn't feel like she is up to going to the wedding.
My fiance and I are thinking about allowing the girlfriend to sit with the wedding party. Would this look too weird? We want her to feel accepted by all our friends and we want our friend to have a good time at the wedding if she goes.