(Closed) Allowing children at the e-party but not wanting children at the wedding

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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7885 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think that’s fine. To me, the main reason is it’s a faux pas to invite someone to the engagement party but not the wedding, is that often a gift is expected. (At least her in Australia, not sure about UK). And children don’t give a separate gift anyway. I can’t think of any downside to what you’re doing, plus it’s totally weird to have a no children afternoon BBQ anyway.

Post # 4
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4243 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t seen an issue with it – young kids won’t know the etiquette nor be giving gifts, so they themselves won’t be offended and most adults should understand that the two events have completely different atmospheres – one kid-friendly, one not.

Post # 5
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786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Our engagement was a backyard BBQ and we had our friends bring their kids but we won’t be inviting the kids to our wedding.  I love these kids but we just don’t see that at our wedding.  I don’t think you’ll have a problem with it.

Post # 6
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2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think you’re perfectly ok in doing that, I wouldn’t be offended by it. I would probably be more offended or annoyed if you expected me to find a sitter for all wedding related events.

Post # 7
Hostess
13662 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I’m not sure what “official” etiquette is here, but I think that’s actually a great way to involve your friends’/family’s kids and maybe mitigate the sting of kids not being invited to the wedding.

Post # 9
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14 posts
Newbee

I think it would be fine, as long as you’re explicit about it in your wedding invites.

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