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So we are having a DW in our new city and state. We just moved out west about 7 months ago, so 85% of our guest are coming from out of town (1500 miles away or more). So with the cost of travel, hotel and being in the wedding. I just told the ladies to find their own dress as long as it's long, black and elegant. I asked each bride to allow me to see the dress before they buy and also share with the other ladies the style. Have anyone done this? So far the ladies are cool with it and since I am a big Bargain Betty 2 out of the 4 ladies are allowing me to help them find a good deal on dresses. I seen pictures from past weddings and it looks nice to have the ladies pick their own dress style to fit their body. So I think this might work for us.
I did this with my BM's only b/c their body types are all so different and I wanted them to be comfortable in something they are spending their own money on. For the most part the girls loved it. I just told them the fabric and the color.
I wanted my bridesmaids to have different colors and styles. All I did was give them a list of colors, each chose 1, and then they were basically allowed to get whatever they wanted, as long as it was knee length and I could see it first. It worked out very well and everyone has chosen great dresses for a price that fit best for them.
@reginaphalange: This is my same thought. I wish the last 4 weddings I was in allowed me to do this instead of spending over $100 on a dress that I hated. So I am happy with my choice of allowing them to pick there own dress for their own body style and budget.
I let mine choose, but I told them either they were all the same, or all different. Because two of them wanted the same dress, the 3rd was on board, and the 4th (who is technically a groomswoman, but is wearing the same as the bridesmaids) will just have to deal.
But, yes, I defnitely think it's really nice to let them pick, with your approval of course.
I let mine choose, but I told them either they were all the same, or all different. Because two of them wanted the same dress, the 3rd was on board, and the 4th (who is technically a groomswoman, but is wearing the same as the bridesmaids) will just have to deal.
But, yes, I defnitely think it's really nice to let them pick, with your approval of course.
you guys make me feel guilty! I choose the dress, i personally dont like the look of the different dresses. I did however let them all choose between 3, totally in different price ranges. they all were with me when i was trying on dresses, they all decided on the most expensive one and everyone agreed to it. $150. I even had some comment saying it was the cutest they have had to wear for a wedding.
I love the idea! I think its great and easy going... theyll atleast feel comfortable in a dress they chose themselves. (:
Yes!
I did it, but with long horizon blue dresses from Davids Bridal, and it looked great!
I know someone who did it with black, like you are suggesting, and it looked great! (It appears that the requirements also included straps/sleeves and knee-length, and then she added a green ribbon.)
I'm doing this, but I won't see the dresses until the day of the wedding!
i was a bridesmaid this year and our dresses were picked for us, they were bought via ebay for myself and the 2 other girls by the bride so we didnt get to see them or try them on - which was alittle bit of an issue as my dress was 10 sizes too big for me so had to be drastically altered!
@CassidyR: Wow, thiat is kind of cool. I don't know if I can hold out until the wedding.
The girls are picking--I just asked for black and knee-length.
I did. It was fantastic. My requirements were dark purple in colour (didn't have to be matching dark purples) and not too slutty. I didn't see 2 of them until the wedding day, and it was fine.
I think it looks amazing mixed and matched.
I am and I totally regret it. We're doing 1950s short prom-style dresses and it's been a nightmare. I figured letting everyone choose their dress (with guidelines) would lead to happy bridesmaids. I'm even letting everyone get a different color (again, with guidelines). I figured vintage was great, since the girls who wanted to/could spend $300 would, while we could still find dresses for under $100 for the girls on a tighter budget. I've sent them links to HUNDREDS of dress suggestions in various colors and styles. It has been a NIGHTMARE. You would think the flexibility would've been appreciated, but I've had people haggling with me over styles and price ever since, choosing styles that have nothing to do with the few guidelines I gave, etc. I've had to make so many concessions, and it's going to end up looking pretty different from what I intended. If I had just said here's your dress, this is the price, deal with it, it would've been a lot less of a headache for me and I think people would've been a lot more respectful of my choices.
If you're going to go this route, think of what can go wrong before hand -- are you OK with 2 or more girls choosing the same style? If not, who gets their way if multiple girls want the same one? What if they get them at different stores and the dye batches are off? What if they stray from any style guidelines you give them? etc. etc. etc. Proceed with caution!
I'm only having my sister so she can pick pretty much anything she wants to wear, I'll probably give a choice of black, white or blue. When I was considering multiple BMs though I was leaning towards picking a colour and just letting them pick whatever they'd want to wear. It seems to be one less thing to deal with as a bride.
@brittaful: Thanks for the heads up. So far the girls are pretty much on the right track. All of the ladies have been shopping on totally different stores and al have different style. Keep in mind, all 4 bridesmaids are in 4 different states. But so far only one has a dress and I helped my little sister pick it out so one down and 3 more to go, lol.
My girls are all picking out their own dresses. Of the five, three have got theirs already (pictured above). So far, they're doing wonderfully!
I did tell my girls royal blue and floor length. We went out shopping a few times and they all ended up deciding they like the same dress after all so they will be matching. It's funny cos I actually agree that we had a LOT more hassles cos the girls were worried about being similar even when they were looking for mismatched dresses - I think they hadn't seen the idea before thou...
Now just to convince them to get mismatched hairstyles :) I am not a huge fan of matchy matchy and I want their different personalities to shine thru :)
I had every intention on letting my girls choose their own dresses. Myself and 4 of my 7 ladies went to the bridal salon in hopes of seeing the style each girl liked. I had planned on choosing like 10 different dresses that all looked nice together and that plan COMPLETELY went out the widonw.
Once we got to the salon, the consultant pulled one dress and my girls all went crazy for it. They were fighting with each other (not really) over who got to try it on first. They all ended up loving the same dress so thier all 7 getting it. Completely took me off guard, but if they're happy so am I. :o)
@MrsDiddles: I figured the same thing really they were given an option and all chose to wear the same therefore they are happy with the choice - I/we should have no bridesmaidszillaesque issues, over the dress at least hahaha
@MrsDiddles: Thats pretty cool. Glad it all worked out for you.
I considered it, but I really like the look of matching dresses. I think it's ok though because the dresses cost $67 with shipping. Not form fitting or strapless, two things I hope are never forces on me! :)
I'm letting them get separate dresses. I designated the color each would wear, and told them it had to be satin and knee length, and that they'd all be in different gowns. I set the ground rule that whoever liked a dress and was first to claim it on our hidden bridal party facebook page got dibs. So that made it pretty easy to keep track of since they were all posting their style #s and pics, and it was good incentive for them to get to the store to pick out 'the dress' before another girl got to it :-)
I only have one maid, so we went shopping together and picked a dress we both liked. Made it super easy!
My bridesmaids are in Chicago, Orlando, Sarasota, and Tampa... sooooooooo I'm just letting them find dresses from the same collection in either wedding color in an agreed upon fabric. (Either chiffon or satin.) They all have such different personalities and body shapes so I want them to be comfortable.
My girls are all getting convertible dresses that they'll be able to style however they please. My only request was that they get them in Plum Purple...But how they decide to style it is completely up to them..
I am. My girls are getting their own LBDs - any style they want. I wanna see some creativity here!
I told my girls as long as it was black, strapless and kneelength, I was happy. I didn't even care about the style, fabric, etc. They all looked great and one even ended up wearing a halter top style which looked fine. It really didn't matter in the end because everyone looked great. I'm not a fan of matchy-ness though!
I did this and loved it. I only had two requirements: I picked the color Holly from David's Bridal and asked that it be long. The girls ranged from size 2 to 20, so there's probably no way we could have found a dress that they were all happy with. We don't have our pro pics back yet, but here's one my dad took before the ceremony.
They all thanked me for letting them choose so they could be comfortable with how they looked AND how much they were spending.
I will probably have my ladies get their own black dresses. I dont want to dictate the style and i really dont want to tell them how much to spend and i want them to be able to use the dress again. Because its tough being a bridesmaid sometimes!
Also...we all have different body shapes.
I'm only having a MOH and she lives in another state, so I just told her the color and length and she can choose the rest. I know she has good taste so I'm not too worried. She'll probably send me pics before she buys it though.
@misspeanut: Love this! and your dress is gorgeous!
@cardnasac: I'm basically making a poll of the styles they like and showing pictures.
@misspeanut: Thanks for sharing the pic, it looks great. So far 1 bridesmaid got a Jersey black dress from David's Bridal and other got a chiffon dress. They look pretty good together, now I just have 2 more ladies to go. I even sent the other 2 ladies a picture of the 2 already bought dresses so they can see what it looks like.
My girls all got different dresses. I just said it had to be chiffon, knee length, and in tealness.
They've all ordered and they've all seemed happy about it.
I'm having a winter wedding so this is what we're doing...The bridesmaids are all wearing dresses with cardigans. I have 1 "requirement" for the dresses: they all have to be the same shade of mustard yellow. I would really love for them to get something that has similiar style to somewhere like Forever 21 or Anthropologie. But basically, I'm letting them pick what they want! I think it turns out gorgeous and shows off the girls personal styles :)!
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