Post # 1
May 5th will be 5 months out for us, and I’m starting to feel the pressure of my to-do list! Right now my to-do priorities are: (1) booking hair/makeup; (2) booking cake baker; (3) booking a florist; (4) nailing down the start time for purposes of the invitations, and creating/finalizing all wording and inserts associated with invitations so I can get them off to my Etsy person.
I’m having the hardest time finding a reasonable hair/makeup person. Since I don’t have any bridesmaids and it will just be myself and my mom getting hair/makeup done that day, I’m running into NO’s from everyone in the form of either “we require a minimum of 3 girls,” or “we won’t travel, you’ll have to come to us,” or “we want $500 to do hair/makeup for two people because the word ‘wedding’ is associated with your serivce.” This is slowly working it’s way up to second most stressful part of planning (finding a venue was #1).
I have picked up a second part-time job at Starbucks for nights and weekends, and all of that income is exclusively being put towards the wedding. So planning and any DIY projects that I might be stupid enough to take on is about to get a lot harder now that I am working anywhere between 60 to 75 hours a week.
I emailed a florist close by my venue with a photo of a bouquet that I would basically want replicated, and am awaiting a reply for that. Thank god flowers are going to be a minimal expense and headache — our venue is awesome enough to include floral centerpieces for us (sunflowers), and all I need to do is provide the mason jars that I want them set in. Again, given no bridesmaids and my desire for no ceremony decor, the only flowers I need is my bouquet!
How is everyone else doing? Feel the pressure yet?
Post # 3
@FutureMrsLAL: I think we’re right at the same point! I’m finalizing invites, just booked the string quartet, am looking at (pie) bakers, and need a make-up artist! My hairstylist is a longtime friend/been doing my hair for ten years. So she’s a given; but every MUA I contact is booked or rude. *sigh* I didn’t even THINK about the fact that some won’t travel to the venue! Ughh
At present, what’s really getting to me is the cost of my alterations. I knew when I bought my dress ( a sample, three sizes too big, covered in beaded lace) that it would be expensive. But I didn’t realize it would be $600!!!! I started way early because the whole thing basically has to be deconstructed and rebuilt – and I booked a great seamstress bc its a really intensive alteration.
But seriously, the only reason I justified buying my dress was that it was 50% off. Now most of that is going back into alterations. Ayyy
Post # 4
I have my invitations all ready to be sent out. Too early lol. All I need is to order our wedding cake, put together our gifts for guests, order thank you’s, monogrammed napkins, and pick out music. Dress alterations are going to be $700 even though my dress cost $5,000 in my size because it still needs to be taken in, the train needs to be removed and I’m adding straps. Also I want to get robes for my bridesmaids. Just these little things though. big picture stuff is done!!
Post # 5
I booked in my hair and makeup very early on, basically as soon as I got engaged because I’ve used both before and knew they were who I wanted.. I’ve also booked in the trials to conincide with other friends weddings so I have somewhere to go after to show it all off and see how it wears! So that is done. Florist is booked and deposit paid, but style not decided, I’ll have to go in and sort that out in a couple of months because they don’t know exactly what kind of flowers will be in season- it will depend on how the weather fairs until that point. I bought my dress off the rack a while ago and my shoes have arrived now so I have to call an alterations lady and hope she can fit me in. I’ve booked and paid deposits for the celebrant, caterer and cake so they’re sorted too. Invites are constructed but my sister is helping me with the font and spacing so that part just needs my final OK and then printing, plus envelopes printed too (which may be the death of me since they are non-standard envelopes).. Hoping to get those out by the end of May. I need to get my flowergirl dresses- I have to send an enquiry as to if I’ll be able to get them custom made. My wedding ring has been custom made and will be ready shortly, future hubs needs to work out if he wants a wedding ring or not (and if he does, we’ll have to find what he wants) and we need to find his attire.. A trip to Sydney is booked for a couple of weeks for that. I’ve already bought glassware, sparklers for our send off and 4000 fairy lights to decorate our venue and I’ve been collecting glass jars for the homemade chutney and jams we’ll make and the mr has been perfecting his home brew for the favours for our guests.
My custom made ering has just arrived too, so I really feel engaged now.. But it needs to be resized, so that’s on top of the things to do list at the moment!
I think we’re going pretty well really, I’m so excited!!
Post # 6
My planning status in similar to everyone on this post. All the big stuff (venue, dj, photog, video, dress)is done along with some details (hair/makeup for bridesmaids and me, hotel block for out of town guests) FI and I started booking the big stuff a year in advance, took a break for a few months, but I’m now starting to feel the pressure as the planning timeline looms!
@FutureMrsLAL: Finding a hair and makeup person was difficult for me as well. I ended up booking with a younger up-and-coming artist who works with her mother; daugher does makeup, mother does hair. All the more-established artists had minimums of 5 or even 6 people at booking, and I have a smaller bridal party. Is there a local cosmetology or beauty school you could ask? They may have students available for your wedding. As for flowers, have you considered the local grocery store? My friends and Future Sister-In-Law got their flowers from Wegmans and Whole Foods and we wrapped our bouquets ourselves using some floral tape and ribbon. That saved $$$ and is pretty simple.
Costs of alterations also surprised me, but after shopping around for a good tailor I’m hoping the results are flawless.
Post # 7
@Tiffmiff: Date twins!! 🙂
@FutureMrsLAL: I have to once again echo PPs, that all of the “major stuff” is booked. Floral decisions have to be made at some point, same with the menu decisions. We are going to finalize the invites this weekend and place the order (I’ve been saying this for a few weeks now–but this time I mean it). I had a TON of trouble with hair and makeup, and still haven’t finalized that yet, although I think I know who I’m going to use, I just need to iron it all out. We just purchased FIs wedding band, so that’s being made and should be in in about 4 weeks. That’s exciting!
There is so much still to do, so many little details. On the top of my to-do list is figuring out tuxes, deciding on my veil and starting to decide what I want to give my girls as gifts. I am a sentimental person so I know I want to make them photo albums of pictures of us throughout the years, but that’s all I’ve come up with so far. I’m really starting to feel the pressure more and more each day. My goal is to have pretty much everything done three weeks before the wedding, except for things that have to wait til the end, such as seating charts and running errands. We are going to an Out of Town wedding two weeks before our wedding, so that should add some uncessary stress on top of everything!
Post # 8
As of yesterday when we booked the photographer, the major stuff is done. Whew! Fiance proposed in Feb and due to his health issues we knew we wanted to get married this year. I have been pushing hard to get a lot to get done in a little time. I’ve had to settle in some cases, but thats OK. We are having a small wedding so that has helped.
So…. church, venue, DJ and photographer are done and my dress came in in 2 weeks. Hotel rooms are blocked and I pretty much have the menu figured out.
I will DIY the invitations, flowers and centerpieces. I don’t have a clue what I am going to do about hair/makeup yet. <sigh>
Post # 9
@MizzStark1026: Wowwwww $700?! I thought 600 was rough. Our dresses had better be perfect!
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
Well, it seems I am on track with everyone else here. The only big thing left to do is hire a hair stylist for me and my girls, and I should have that checked off the list by next week.
Everything else is just little things – DIY projects, saving money, etc…
Oh, and we have to buy our wedding bands! I guess that’s a big one. 🙂
And two of my girls haven’t ordered their dresses yet, but they will next week. Everyone is waiting for payday at this point, I guess.
I haven’t taken my dress in for alterations, as I am still losing weight. But I hope it’s nowhere near $600! Ugh! Why is everything SO EXPENSIVE?!?
Happy 5 Months, fellow Oct brides!
Post # 11
I had trouble with hairdressers as well! I booked a makeup artist I really wanted (who now never reponds to any of my emails ugh) and no hairdressers would do my wedding unless I paid them twice as much for makeup too because october is a popular month for weddings – so I found a hairdresser a 5 minute drive from venue an dI’ll have to get it done there FML. At least it’s close!
Other than that, we have consults in 2 weeks with a jeweller for our custom wedding bands and the florist. And my dress should arrive in store by the end of this month, yay! Although if alterations cost $700 I may finally have a bridezilla moment :s
Post # 12
We are having a destination wedding in Florida so we booked alot last year but now we are going back down next week – eeek! to finalize everything..well most things with regards to the venue.
We have to finalize flowers, decor (because we are having a tent), food choices and make up (my friend is doing our hair) – should I be worried about the make up? I only have one appointment booked on the recommendation of a friend – should I book more just in case? They are the things we have to be there for.
We have booked the DJ, Photographer, videographer, my mum is doing our cake, all dresses have been ordered. We are having alot of trouble with cars – we cannot get a classic car that will take us on the 40 min drive from the church to the venue so we have to work on that! :/
So basically all that’s left to do is:
Shoes, Jewelry etc.
Is there anything I am missing??
Post # 13
We had a pretty long engagement so most things were taken care of early on. All I have to do is purchase some odds and ends (jewelry, frames for table numbers, favors, escort cards, etc), most of which has been decided on and just haven’t got around to buying everything yet. We also still have to have our cake tasting, address and send the invites, finalize our ceremony wording and song list, and I need to have hair and makeup trials and dress alterations (my quote was surprising as well at $450 for hemming and taking it in). I may be forgetting a few little details right now but i feel like were right on track! So exciting it seems to be going faster now 🙂
Post # 14
We sent out invites, decided on a photog (waiting on contract to pay dep), and bought wedding rings! All in the last two weeks. I’m down to the stuff that is going to be dependent on guest turnout now.
Post # 15
My update from the OP… I swallowed hard and booked hair/makeup, and feel so relieved because I was worried about that!
This past weekend, I spontaneously bought my cowboy boots that I’ll be wearing when I stumbled upon them in a western store. <super excited>
My mom solved my guest book problem without me even raising the issue. I had no idea what I was going to do, but knew that we didn’t want the traditional guest book or something overdone like signing a picture frame matte. She randomly texted me yesterday and said “I’m going to make a quilt-like table runner for people to sign.” GREAT! THANKS MOM! As many of the cute, crafty details she wants to take on is fine with me because I want those sentimental “hand made” things… I just don’t have the time, patience, creativity or drive to do them myself!
I have started drafting my invitation wordings. We are now stuck in the dilemma of whether or not we are paying for Friday night dinner (because we want to welcome people up to our venue Friday night to stay through Sunday… and were therefore going to include an insert to that effect).