Almost 5 … still drink from a bottle….advice needed

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

@brokeninnj:  he doesn’t need to drink milk. You are the parent. Throw away the bottles. 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

He clearly knows how to get what he wants from you. Set firm boundaries and take the bottle away. It’ll suck for a day or two, and then he will get over it. Also, how is he getting nutrients if he isn’t eating veggies?!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@brokeninnj:  agree with the PP, take away the bottle. It’s going to be rough at the beginning, he’s going to have plenty of tantrums but you have to stay strong and not give in. No child will starve themselves, if he is hungry, he will slowly start to replace the milk with more solid food. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Simply throw away the bottles. There will be temper tantrums but he will survive.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@brokeninnj:  why don’t you take him shopping for a new big boy cup of his very own?  let him pick it out.  maybe one with a built in straw or some superhero on it. 

have you tried weaning him off the bottle by not putting the lid and nipple on it and just let him use it as a cup?

you are the parent and he needs to know that you are the one in control.  i would throw out the bottle.  does he drink other beverages at home other than milk?  what does he drink out of?

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@brokeninnj:  My little sister drank from a bottle until she was 4 1/2, until the bottle fairy got rid of all the bottles and gave her a teddybear. Arent you more concerned about him only eating the foods you listed? Kids are only allowed to be picky if their parents let them.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@brokeninnj:  We had the “buh buh fairy” at our house, and the buh buh fairy took away all the buh buhs when my brother and I were old enough to stop drinking from bottles.  I think my mom said it was a traumatic time, but we got over it pretty quickly.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I get that it’s harder because you can’t just throw away all the bottles because your baby still uses them.  Honestly, he’s probably jealous that he has been ‘replaced’ to a certain extent by a new baby; that has been his role for years, and now he’s expected to grow up while he sees her getting the treatment he wants.  However, that being said, I would stand my ground. No bottles for him. If he doesn’t drink milk, fine.  He doesn’t need to drink milk.  He does need to give up the bottle.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

@mypinkshoes:  I love these ideas, especially choosing a cup with his favourite character.

@brokeninnj: OP, I’m not a parent but I am a kindergarten teacher and I do encounter these problems sometimes. I guess sometimes as the teacher it’s easier for me to be ‘Mr bad guy’ than the parent, but in this case I would do as pp said (buy a nice cup together) and then simply take away the bottles for good after explaining why (you’re a big boy, you need to be a big brother to your sibling, mummy and daddy don’t use a bottle) etc.

If he doesn’t like the cup, then he will just have to go thirsty until he breaks (even if that takes a few days and a few temper tantrums). You don’t need to worry about short-term problems such as two days without drinking milk, because that *really* isn’t the end of the world.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@brokeninnj:  My mom works at a preschool. She says that if he can drink milk with a straw at school, he can do it at home. He’s not doing it because you are not enforcing it.

Throw the bottle away.

He will drink milk after throwing a fit.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

@brokeninnj:  COLD TURKEY! Take it away! If he is hungry he will eat. You are the parent and need to set boundaries now otherwise he will know what he can get away with and will push you!

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@brokeninnj:  i think the new baby is the reason.  you will soon be introducing sippy cups to the baby (if not already) so there will be no need for bottles in the house.  perhaps try to make your son feel like he needs to help train his new sister how to use a cup.  he needs to be the influence.

you need to remain in the control position.  i have a feeling the 5 year old thinks he is.  i would also be a bit concerned as to the limited menu.  does he eat any fruits or vegetables?

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