Post # 1
Ok Bees in July it will be a year and I am killing myself over wedding day regrets, and things I forgot or left for the last minute. Even though it was a great day after all said and done its the photos and memories that haunt me.
1. I decided to do a few DIY projects. Well my DIY pomanders for church and reception tables were stalled a lot in finishing them even my husband was on me about it. At the end a few of my tables didnt have the decor and the church pews only had a few. I did the wedding activity books for the kids and left them all at home on wedding day. I totally forgot that I had started to do the bridesmaids bouquets and on my wedding day I had to rush to the flower shop and get 4 made in an hour.
2. I have 3 girls and was sure I was going to have time to do their hairs myself. Well with my stress out breakdown in tears and wanting to call it off I didn’t have time and my mom did their hair while I was getting my makeup done. Because of that my mom didnt have time to do her hair and makeup so she had to just fix it up real fast.
3. Regret partying with the wedding crew the night before because my friend who was doing my hair and makeup showed up at my mom house with a hangover two hours before I was to get married. I got to the church 2 hrs late. It was horrible and embarrassing.
4. my oldest daughter was one of my bridesmaid and we had her dress altered twice. Well I guess she kept losing weight cause on the wedding day the dress kept slipping down in the front since it was strapless. She could barely dance that day and move her arms. I felt so bad.
5. Not taking pictures with my family or my husband not getting any with his. The photographer noticed that after the reception.
6. I had ordered a bling “S” cake topper and it came in the mail in three pieces. My aunt ended up buying some veil looking topper from Walmart which didnt match the cake for nothing.
7. Not hiring a wedding planner. LOL
But overall I hope to one day laugh it off and remember that after all that what mattered the most was that two people that loved each other joined in holy matrimony to say I DO
Post # 3
Even with all of these mishaps, I am sure you still had a wonderful day.. you married the man of your dreams! I would try to focus on the good things that happened on the day. Maybe thinking about having a big vowel renual for say your 5th wedding anniversary would be something to take your mind off of the bad things. Maybe it would give you the chance to feel like you’re getting a re-do. I hope you dont fret over the wedding day mistakes forever. I’m sure I’d feel the same way you did if that happened to me though. Best of luck!!
Post # 4
Let me just say I think you have a fantastic memory!!!!
Seriously though, I am sure the day went so fast and you did have a great time regardless of these small mistakes.
Post # 5
Thanks ladies! my husband thinks its funny but I have known other women that has had this feeling also lol. But you are right I did marry the man of my dreams
Post # 6
How about making a list of 7 things that make you happy about your wedding? Your original list seems more about stuff, what about the people there, words said, songs you danced to?
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
The past is the past. Stop overthinking it and be happy that you are done planning and are married to the man you love.
Post # 8
@ricangen81: Heh. My wedding was 9 years ago. My BIL played Pachelbel’s Canon in D during our ceremony….and totally, royally screwed it up. Like got stage fright and just stopped playing for 30 sec – with the whole church dead silent. We sort of gave each other frightened glances and finally, finally he started up again.
Also, the flowers didn’t show up on time, and it was literally 15 mins before the ceremony was supposed to start and my poor mother was running around the vestibule in her pantyhose with her hair half done looking for the flower delivery guys!
My point is, I totally forgot all about that stuff till you brought it up. And now as I type this I’m smiling and sorta laughing at the memory of it! At the time it was stressful, and sort of upsetting for a little while after the wedding. But believe me, all that will fade. You have your excellent husband now, and in a while you can both go, remember during the wedding when…? And I bet you guys will laugh 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2013 - Little White Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas
Regret is a wasteful thought. Instead of letting something that has already happened and cannot change control you, why not think of it as a learning experience that you can grow from. Let the regrets go. There is no reason to let it torment you. You deserver to be happy!