Post # 1
I have found myself in a less than perfect situation, one that I never DREAMED I would be in. My SO and I have been dating for a year. Our relationship is really great with one exception… His almost ex-wife. I am divorced I know it can take a long time where we live due to the courts, but today I am annoyed. They have been separated now for over 2 and a half years. They filed for divorce when they separated so this has been in the works for a long time. We just found out that she is telling people that she is married to her new boyfriend. I just feel like yelling “good lord you will not give my SO a divorce but you are claiming to be married to someone else?!” It sounds silly but I have finally found a person that I am crazy about and I can’t have him because he is still legally bound to her.
Post # 3
@mom2bbg: Sorry no words of encouragement other than PATIENCE… my own Divorce was dragged thru the courts for over 5 years. So I know how that passage of time sucks… more so if one wants to marry again… that wasn’t my particular case, I just wanted to GET ON with my life.
For the record…
Married & Common Law aren’t the same thing in all places but… in some locations (such as Canada) they are considered virtually identical (especially so if one also has also filed a Will / Living Will and a Common Law / Cohabitation Agreement). At least here, then YES one could refer to their partner as their spouce even without the more formal wedding ceremony.
Doesn’t make it any less painful (or in your case a PITA).
But thought you should know the facts.
Post # 4
@This Time Round:
Thanks for the patience! It is much needed. In that area where we live there is no common law marriage. Just waiting on closure for all involved here, the rest can wait.
Post # 5
@mom2bbg: what seems to be the hold up if both are parties have obviously moved on?