Post # 1
So, I have friends getting engaged left and right, I’m on the ‘bee getting excited over complete strangers’ proposals/weddings/recaps and looking at photog sites, dresses, etc. – meanwhile, SO is trying to fight anxiety all while searching for his first new job in over 20 years and dealing with some ugly financial issues. We’ve talked about marriage, our future, etc, and we know this rough patch isn’t going to last forever – the financial stuff will get worked out, he will find work and we will get engaged, etc. it’s just that at the moment I am kind of feeling resentful about not being able to do all the cute fun stuff that goes with wedding planning – engagement photos, etc. FYI, we want small and inexpensive (we’re in agreement on wanting a really nice honeymoon!) but I got so depressed right now looking at pricing for photogs. It was just too much. I just want awesome photos if we do go with courthouse, but arrrrghhhh.
I think my mom would help with expenses, since I am her only child and she has spoiled me from day one, and she LOVES SO so I could see her buying the dress, or chipping in for photography. We want to do small parties for friends/family in our respective states (I moved to be with him.) so that’s not a huge $$$ concern.
Hell – I’m looking at $900 wedding dresses, but knowing me, I would never be able to justify something like that, even if I were able, lol. I’d probably find something I loved off the rack at Macy’s, lol. I know cheap can be done, it’s just probably more seeing other people’s days and wanting that right now for us.
Just a vent today… Being watchful of every stinking penny right now sucks, even if you know it’s just for a little while. I never thought I’d ever even want to get married, but here I am, and I never imagined I’d be worried about money crap.
Post # 3
It’ll be ok!!
Maybe it’s best to take a break from the bee/other wedding sites for now, and focus on something else – like improving yourself for when the time comes? I know I am focusing on losing some weight/getting in shape, and being less stressed at work so that when the time comes, I can be a happy, hot, engaged chick lol. Sadly I can’t seem to shake my addiction to the bee. Hmm.
Could you get a part time job to help save for the wedding expenses? Just a suggestion. Just try to be as supportive as you can of your SO and everything will fall into place. Waiting sucks, no doubt about it.. but I guess you have to make the best of it.
Post # 4
Thanks for the reply! 🙂
I think taking a break might be a good idea, but I really do enjoy it most days. So we will see.
I also am doing things that make me happy, such as reading, running, etc. I try and keep in touch with friends back home… I also try to be as supportive to SO as I possibly can. He understands that this isn’t easy on me either and is always thinking of me, even during the worst parts of this. So I feel lucky there.
Happy and hot engaged chicks are the best kind of engaged chicks, eh? *highfive*
Post # 5
Want a cheap 300 buck knock off dress from china? weddingDRESSbee.com lol.
Just buy a binder and make it your pet project. Do DIY crafts. You can do it Mama. Support your man. I have said this before and I will say it again.
Just like a Child cannot learn if they are hungry
I man cannot save to get his woman a ring if he is thinking about how he is going to pay the rent this month.
Somet things just take time.
Stick it out. You guys love each other.
Post # 6
I love the idea of having a binder to put all the ideas. I have a folder on my desktop where I keep links to things I like. 🙂
Post # 7
@mrs_pudding_pop: i’d say just stop looking. i know, easier said than done. i used to buy magazines til i got over the proposal thing. it’s been 3.5 years now and i doubt one is coming anytime soon or the day after soon. so, i’m over it. marriage isn’t for everyone