Post # 1
And I have no idea why. It was hosted by a friend of the family, and she invited about 40 people (from the guest list of 450), 10 of which were out of towners that I was pretty sure wouldn’t make it.
That leaves 30 people, right? Wrong, I had my mother, my MOH, 2 bridesmaids, a cousin,the hostess, and one other guest.
I feel so unloved and unimportant.
Post # 3
@staying_ms_shaw: I’m sorry hun! Chin up.
Post # 4
Don’t feel unloved or unimportant!! Maybe it was just an inconvenient time for a lot of people. Don’t let this ruin your outlook on your wedding; it sounds like the people closest to you were there anyways. 🙂 *HUGS*
Post # 5
Aw, I’m sorry to hear that. Try not to let it get under your skin or mess with your head. Just focus on your wedding day – I’m sure that will be great!
Post # 6
I’m so sorry:( That’s how I felt on my birthday a few years ago. Don’t let something like this mess with your self-worth. It was probably just on a day when people were already busy. Did you get any verbal confirmation from people saying they would come?
Post # 7
I’m sorry to hear that you are feeling the way you are. You are loved and important!!
Could it be that the invites were sent to close to the event? Not leaving enough time for people to change plans/make arrangements to get there?
Post # 8
@staying_ms_shaw: oh my goodness 🙁 I’m so sorry! Don’t feel down about it though–it sounds like the people who mean the most to you were there. And with 450 people coming to your wedding, you will sure feel loved that day! If it makes you feel better, I’m not having a bridal shower since my bridesmaids will be the only friends around and all other friends are out of town!
Post # 9
I am sorry.
Nothing more to say but ((hugs)).
Post # 10
i’m sorry to hear! I have that same fear for my bridal shower!
Post # 11
Aww I’m sorry that happened to you!! 🙁 I agree with the others, that it was probably just a bad weekend for everyone. I haven’t had my shower yet but so far I know at least 2/3rds of the guests invited aren’t coming. My family on my dads side actually scheduled a family event (after my shower invitations went out) on the same day, so not a single person from that side of the family will be there.
Try not to let it get you down! ♥
Post # 12
I know you have heard it. But I am sorry :(. But look on the bright side, there is the wedding still and you have a guest list of 450 people, wow! That’s a giant wedding 🙂
Post # 13
@Heatherloveskenny: No, that’s the problem, we invited 450 people, but the invite reply is at 97 people, and they’re due tomorrow.
I just don’t understand.
Post # 14
Oh hon, I’m sorry. That sucks. But the pps are right, it was probably just not a day where many people could make it.
As for the RSVPs, try a couple of searches on here about RSVP deadlines – so, so many brides have experienced the frustration of having to call/email/contact a LOT of people to get them to say whether they were coming to the wedding. Unfortunately (and please don’t take this personally, it’s not meant to be), your wedding will never be as front-and-center in everyone else’s mind as it is in your own. Other things (work, kids, paying bills, keeping their houses clean, etc) get into people’s heads and sometimes they just forget to do even a simple thing like return the RSVP.
Chin up – have one of those wonderful ladies who came to your shower help you contact the people who have not RSVP’d after the deadline, and try to relax about this. I’m sure you’ll end up surrounded by people you love who love you on your big day, and it won’t matter if a few couldn’t make it.
Post # 15
Aw! I’m so sorry this happened to you 🙁 Its horrible to feel unloved
I have the same fear about my own bridal shower… I’m pretty sure no one is going to come… even one of the girls who is throwing it for me isn’t actually going to be there.
Post # 16
Don’t feel unloved! It was probably just an inconvenient weekend for many people. To be honest most of the showers I have been to have had around 12 guests…usually it is just the moms, close female relatives (sisters, cousins, etc.) and a couple of the bridesmaids. What’s more important is your wedding day, when you will be surrounded by all of your family and friends! 🙂