(Closed) Already down a bridesmaid possibly 2 :(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

“Just drop it. Remember that either way she will be at the wedding. Do you want her sitting at table possibly telling everyone that you are the princess bride that kicked her out or standing next to you smiling? Even though you may be close in this situation she may be an enemyy. It’s better to have your enemy closer in this one.”

I quoted this because when I asked the same question about booting my FSIL out of the wedding this was one of the answers I got back.  After being less emotional about it, this was the advice I took.  Even though she may be complaining kicking her out may ruffle of FIL’s feathers.

Post # 4
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I”d confront her, personally. I would say something like this with a really concerned genuine look on my face “I was really sad to hear that you aren’t happy about being in our wedding party. While it hurts my feelings, I just want you to be happy and I thought including you would achieve that. By no means do you have to be a Bridesmaid, I totally understnad and won’t be upset if it’s too much for you.”

She’ll either feel REALLY stupid for acting the way she has been, or she’s shape up immediately and stop being so selfish and bratty.

Post # 5
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322 posts
Helper bee

I agree with @moderndaisy. Leave the decision up to her and I don’t think you can go wrong.

Post # 7
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162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m really sorry that you are losing a sister and having drama with the FSIL. I would talk to her about if she wants to be in the bridal party, because she is your new family and you don’t want her to take on more than she can handle. But I may also mildly add, that being in the bridal party, and being a bridesmaid, means helping with the wedding things like the bridal shower. So you would really appreciate it if she could communicate better with everyone else, if she decides she wants to stick with it. Good Luck!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I like what moderndaisy said. If she says she doesn’t want to be part of the wedding party, let her leave. At least she’s not forced to stay in it and acts bitchy all the time.

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