(Closed) Already feeling stressed…..ugh

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Are we the same person? I think so!! Our FIs sound similar too. I don’t have much advice for you since I haven’t quite figured out how to calm myself down yet. Ugh!

Post # 5
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@sarbear2814: Yes! Mine is exactly the same way. And he just wants me to have everything I want, so he offers no opinions, even when I really really need them!!! I am an anxious person by nature, so this whole wedding planning thing is not good… haha.

Post # 6
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It really helped me to fill my time reading/working out/doing something totally un-wedding related to fill my head up with other stuff.

-Good Luck!

Post # 7
71 posts
Worker bee

I would say try to write ideas down, save pictures online that you like, chat through ideas on boards like this or with any friends or family that are into it. I think it’s normal to think about your wedding a lot but if you have to talk about it in front of your fiance who probably isn’t that into flowers and favors then I would try to stick to topics that he might have an interest in (in my case – the food and honeymoon).

Post # 8
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’ve been planning for 8 months now (two more to go), and I will tell you that the obsession is normal. There are hundreds of decisions to make, big and small, and it really does tend to take over all your waking (and sometimes sleeping!) thoughts. That is perfectly normal, so accept it. If you can manage to set aside specific times to stop focusing on it, you should – maybe declare that one or two days a week you will NOT do any planning, and busy yourself with something else. If your family asks questions on those days, politely tell them you’re taking a break that day, and please ask tomorrow. 🙂

There are ways, however, to manage your overwhelm. You need to get yourself organized if you haven’t already. Some brides use notebooks or binders; I used a spreadsheet combined with folders on my computer (for inspiration pictures). I blogged about it here:  http://www.getmarried.com/wedding-blog/2010/09/24/spreadsheets-to-keep-me-sane/

The biggest thing I did was to customize my own monthly to-do list based on various timelines and checklists I found online. None of them worked as-is for me, and it was hugely helpful to create my own. For the first several months I focused only on that month’s to-do list, so I wouldn’t be overwhelmed with the big picture. I knew that as long as I was making progress according to my plan, I would be okay.

Now that the date is getting closer, I broke down the monthly list into weekly lists. As long as I  can check off my weekly items, I am still managing to feel in-control. I have had to push some things into future weeks, but that’s okay because I kept the last 2-3 weeks very light in my original plan (knowing that I would have spillover).

Hope this helps – and good luck!

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