- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I’m at my wits end and could use some tough love/advice.
I got married in April– it was awesome and fabulous. I had four attendants: my brother,my best friend since 7th grade and two close female friends. Everyone involved is in their late 30s, urban professionals.
We had a wedding planner and as I had just started a new job and had a huge project due this year. I asked very little of my maids: one helped me try on dresses, they all came when I picked up dresses, and they organized my bachelorette party. I didn’t have a shower. I wanted as stress-free an experience as possible. My maids were amazing anod they were all wonderfully supportive, kind, and helpful.
The person causing drama is another close friend. I did not ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man because she is very negative in general about weddings— every single wedding she goes to upsets her. She has major issues with her single status (2 of my maids are also single btw), and, to top it all off, is a bit of a drama queen and shit-talker. I knew she would stress me out.
i asked her to be a reader at the wedding; invited her to the rehearsal dinner; paid for her hair; and bought her a $150 Alexis Bittar bracelet as a thank you. I thought everything was fine.
a few weeks ago, she posted on her online journal a big rant about how awful weddings are and how she feels so left out at them. This devolved into a discussion in the comments about how I left her out, put her at a table she didn’t like, and generally hurt her terribly because I didn’t ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
i read all if it and was upset, but ultimately decided not to do anything because I didn’t feel that I had done anything wrong, and really hate conflict and drama.
ANYWAY, she wrote me an email this week saying she wants us to sit down and talk about all the resentments she has around the wedding and get my side of the story so she can better understand my perspective. I do NOT want to have this conversation. She is very sensitive, and no matter what I say she’s going to be super upset. She will also gossip to all our mutual friends about the conversation.
What on earth should I do?