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Seriously, it goes by SO quickly, relax and enjoy every moment and don't stress out about bouquet position, etc....those things are not important.
my sister had a couple after her wedding;
hire a coordinator. she didnt lift a finger for the wedding (except her manicure) for the couple weeks prior to the wedding and she said it was amazing.
stick with him. my mom actually told her this, and told me as well. dont leave his side. its difficult, especially because sis and i are social butterflies, but as you circulate through the cocktail hour and reception, dont leave his side, stick together. she said it was the best advice anyone gave her.
I would have a "must take" photography list. I was trying to be easy going about the whole thing, but I missed out on getting pictures with certain people that I would love to have. For instance, there is no picture of just me and my grandma, or even my DH, me and my grandma.
I promise you that you will not be concerned about the placement of your bouquet on your wedding day. Leading up to the wedding I was so concerned about little details that actually didn't matter at all. I could have had my florist not show up at all and I wouldn't have cared. You will be so happy to be married and it will be such a happy day that you just won't have time to think about anything else!
I would agree with the shot list. Don't give your photographer a list of 200 pictures you want him/her to take, but do give them a list of the "musts." you know, Bride's family, groom's family, bride with her grandmother...etc. Your photog isn't going to know who your extended family is, so if you want a special picture, give the list beforehand.
I have heard of remembering to not hold your bouquet too high, etc.
Uh, how about remember your bouquet? LOL.
We didn't have a DJ and so we forgot to do the toasts and the first dance. Oh, and we forgot to even bring the muic :-p. But we were busy talking to people so it didn't really matter.
In the end, you won't stress about the things you forgot, really.
I think if the food's good and the music's good, the rest of it just falls into place. Nobody but the bride remembers anything else, anyway!
also agree with shot-list
make sure you have someone in charge of bringing gifts to the car (groomsmen are great for this)
Make sure you have champange while you're getting ready- i totally forgot about that and was like "There's something missing" LoL
have a tissue SOMEWHERE I had a giant snot bubble from crying during the vows (thank god no one noticed!)
@ TallBride - not to be mean, but I literally LOL at work when I read "have a tissue SOMEWHERE I had a giant snot bubble from crying during the vows (thank god no one noticed!)"!
Hire a coordinator (or designate a good friend to act as one)! Things will go wrong (they always do) and knowing I had a person there to fix things kept me sane.
Eat! Get someone to make you a plate of food if necessary - I designated my planner as the person to pull me aside and make sure I ate something.
Try to make sure you have snacks/drinks for your bridal party during the picture taking session. My father-in-law supplying beer to the groomsmen made them much more willing to stand and smile in multiple pictures :) and the granola bars I gave my girls in their clutches were gone quickly!
If you can - go to your cocktail hour. It was so nice to be able to see people and circulate before the reception.
Just remember to enjoy it all - it really does go by so so quickly.
i agree with the planner. we had day of only and she was worth EVERY penny!!! I was so relaxed and i just knwew things were being taken care of!
Relax and have fun. Don't stress about the things that go wrong that you can't change.
I would say just enjoy since it goes by so quickly! Don't worry about the small things and anything that could or does go wrong..just go with it!
I think you should remember not to sweat the small stuff. There were so many things that didn't happen that were suppose to happen at our wedding that I didn't even care. All I cared about was seeing everyone there and getting married!
make sure to eat something an hour before the wedding because you may not get a chance to really eat during the wedding. And then try your best to grab a bite or two at the wedding.
I have several!
Make sure your slip or crinoline is pulled up high enough - everytime I tried on my dress in the shop it went over my head, on the wedding day I was told to step into it, to avoid messing up my hair. I ended up not pulling the slip up high enough (I stepped into it and the dress at the same time). Walking down the aisle, my foot caught in the slip as it was too low, and I definitely bobbled (we'll avoid saying tripped, though that is what it looked like unfortunately).
Try not to be nervous - I was a wreck at the idea of people staring at me and "knew" I would see them all even though everyone says you won't. While I could definitely tell people were there and it was a little overwhelming (I won't lie), it passed almost immediately and it really didn't matter that all of these people were standing there.
Get a cute umbrella! We did, just in case it rained (it poured), and while I hated that it rained on our wedding day, it has made for some awesome pictures with the umbrella.
Watch the shoes you are wearing between getting that last pedicure and the wedding - I wore some that definitely interfered with my french manicure, and that was the only thing I hadn't put in my "emergency" bag.
Don't be alarmed if people cancel the day of - at that point their seat is a sunk cost.
Remember to hug your in-laws (I'm pretty sure I forgot and honestly don't remember talking to them at all after the ceremony).
It was strange to feed each other cake - the one thing we didn't practice (I overplan and overprepare for everything - even practiced our "first kiss"). So all of our pictures have me with a very surprised "am I doing this right" face. Oops.
We were gifted a fabulous getaway car - which I loved - though at the time I realized, this is cool, but our car would have been fine, if we had paid for it ourselves (over $500) I would have felt ill.
I definitely agree with many of the things listed above; savor the day as much as possible because it goes by so fast!!! I also have a few more:
-Even if you hired a videographer, get a family member or friend who is not involved in the wedding in any other way to take video for you as well (this works for photography too). We did this and we didn't get the most professional video but it was great to see our wedding from someone else's viewpoint. We also noticed some things on the friend cam that we didn't even notice the day of!
-If you didn't hire a planner, or can't afford it don't worry about it! I did everything myself for our wedding, and though it was stressful, and I had to be very organized, I was able to take so much pride in what I had accomplished! All you need is a really great master/mistress of ceremonies and a detailed list to make sure that your plans go the way you hoped.
-One thing that I REALLY regret when I look at our wedding photos is that I don't feel we have enough shots of just myself and my husband. It's so easy to just make your way through the list of people that you need pictures with so they can go on to the reception. My husband isn't enthusiastic when it comes to taking a bunch of pictures so I wish that I would have had our photographer do bride&groom photos first, we waited until after our other photos and I feel that it was cut short.
Now that I have written you a novel, good luck with your big day!!! If anything goes wrong it won't matter in the end. As long as you walk away married to the man of your dreams you will be one happy bride!
I have a tendance to over-plan things (it's part of my line of work ;) so I tried to be more laid back. I would have not worried about coming off as too bossy, because people appreciate direction. Think of how often you've been a guest or even in someone's wedding and not known what was supposed to happen when.
Even the groomsmen commented to my FH that it was the first wedding that they understood what was expected of them and where to seat people (I gave them a sheet of paper that explained it).
Go ahead and give your DJ a copy of the reception timeline and what you want to happen when. My coordinator was on top of the timeline, but the DJ kept checking with me about random things and it really annoyed me!
Need something to get delivered the morning before the wedding? Assign someone to pick it up, because you're going to need to have someone available for the delivery anyway. If it isn't far, it could be easier to schedule the pick up.
I had a must take photo list, but I didn't have anyone in charge of checking with the photographer. Even the people that have been doing weddings forever and have the list in front of them aren't going to get the shots. I would have even tried to do a timeline list on it. We got most of the shots and didn't spend much time on them, but it would have been more efficient with a plan.
On a side note, stick with your husband on the big day. We did this, and split for a little bit of the time, but it's so nice to have the memories of your wedding day include each other (sounds ridiculous that it wouldn't but my cousin barely saw his wife during their reception, they were trying to visit with their 200+ guests). Also you don't want to spend 10 minutes trying to find your spouse when there's a song you want to dance to.
Good luck and have fun!
Aww I am soo happy you asked this and the best piece of advice i read stick to my fiance on our day. I hadnt been thinking it was a big priority but after reading this it is def. important and i talked to my honey already thanks bees :)
I should have been SO much less concerned with all the tiny details. I should have realized that my amazing friends & family would take care of those things for me & let myself truly RELAX the morning of! And I don't think there's anything I could've done to prevent this, but the day FLIES by... I wish I would've known just how much!
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Hi,
I am wondering what were some lessons that you brides have learned from your wedding. I have heard of remembering to not hold your bouquet too high, etc. But is there anything else that you were like "Shoot... I should have remembered to do_______!"
I feel like I am going to forget something and then be upset when the moment arrives.
Thanks in advance.