(Closed) Already receiving RSVPs with uninvited guests!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would have you FI call them.  It is his family, let him deal with it!

Post # 4
Member
627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

aaaack!  i’m scared of the same thing happening to me.  let us know how you decide to handle, and what the outcome is.

Post # 5
Member
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

FI’s problem to deal with.  Have him call the cousins DIRECTLY (not his mom) and tell them your venue space issue and explain that you could not invite the children, which is why their names weren’t on the invites in the first place.  (Sadly, he’ll have to make a script for this because it sounds like he’ll be doing it A LOT.  But’s it’s his family ergo his problem.)

Post # 7
Member
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Oh yikes!  How are people supposed to know who is invited without a __ of __ attending?  Ernestly curious, I’m not criticizing you.

Post # 8
Member
1250 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Since you didn’t specify the number of people invited, this might be an honest mistake. I echo everyone’s suggestions to just have your fiance call and explain the situation to them as nicely as possible, and have him make sure they know that the +3 unfortunately cannot be accommodated.

Post # 9
Member
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I agree with the above posters. Have FI call and explain the situation 🙂 Good Luck!

Post # 10
Member
31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

People should know that the invitation is inviting the people to whom it is addressed–and no one else. If it was addressed to Mrs. Smith and no one else, then Mrs. Smith alone is invited. It doesn’t matter what the RSVP card says, if it says anything at all. 

Your fiance should call and clear it up. 

Post # 12
Member
1001 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

That’s kind of rude!  If you’re not willing to let it slide, I would call and explain the situation.

FI’s cousin wrote in a date and I was INDIGNANT.  I was like “that is SO rude! WHO does that?!  You HAVE to call!” and the very next day, MY cousin wrote in a date.  FI was all mocking me, like “WHO DOES THAT?!”  Ha.  We’re considering letting both slide, unless other people do it and we’re over capacity.

Post # 13
Member
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

wow, I think your FI should handle it. He should call his mom and then either she or he could contact the “offender”..lol. hopefully, it won’t be a big deal and it will help spread the word to others…good luck!

Post # 14
Member
1001 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

BTW, I have never gotten an invite that said “___ of ____ attending”.   I’d never heard of that until I joined Weddingbee!  I didn’t do it on my invites.

Post # 15
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132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I can’t wait to see who tries to do this to me! I agree to have your FI or his mom take care of it since it is their side. You wouldnt have him call someone on your side to handle the same issue would you? I dont get how ppl don’t know what it means when an invitation is addressed to certain people.

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