(Closed) Is it too late to push the wedding back? Already sent STDs

posted 6 years ago in January 2013
Post # 3
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

While not the same situation, but my sister sent Save-The-Date Cards out and then changed to a cruise wedding. She just sent a “newsletter” type thing explaining that Yes everyone got Save-The-Date Cards from them but they were changing it up and gave all the new info. I think while not ideal, but people will understand

(Btw, “everyone got Save-The-Date Cards from them, ha)

Post # 4
3720 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

First, take a giant breath.

Second, when you did your budget calculations, did you do it off of an 80% response rate (which is considered high) or 100%? When we re-calculated, that saved a ton of money on food, booze, and favors.

Third, figure out how much you need to cut and where to do it. We found that cupcakes were cheaper than a cake, using 2 candies were cheaper than 3 for a favor, and that a videographer was simply unnecessary. We also cut out about 50 aps and the dessert (there is cake). You can limit the bar and simplify your flowers. You also really don’t need menus or programs (others may disagree, but they are an easy place to cut). The chair decorations are totally unneeded. You can skimp on a calligrapher by addressing your own invites. You can skimp on makeup by getting it done at Macys.

Fourth, figure out if it is possible to have your wedding as is. If you really aren’t okay with the kind of wedding you can afford, let people know as soon as possible. But most people can easily cut 10% from their budget on details only they would notice.

Post # 5
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You’re going to be fine! I had sent out Save-The-Date Cards & decided to elope instead. I basically let traveling guests know first, then the busy bodies of the family. It happens and people will understand. 

Post # 7
2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re in a very similar situation. We have been engaged for 14 months and are getting married in Sept. I also got injured at work so I have been out of work since December and this has really hurt my income and our wedding budget. Our circumstances are a bit different so we’ve resigned ourselves to putting some of our wedding on credit if necessary. We also found tons of great ways to cut cost – a lower photography package (hell, hire a photography student), no floral centerpieces, have the BMs carry one long stem versus an entire bouquet, DIY invites and Save-The-Date Cards, DIY everything, etc. etc. We were really able to knock several thousand off of our budget. And we could easily knock off more!

Post # 8
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s really too bad that you sent out the save the dates. The easiest way to save on your budget would have been to cut the invite list, but now you cannot resend the invitation.

Have you created a budget? Before you change your date you really need to create a budget based on what you can reallistically afford to spend. Try to keep it to just the essentials. There are a ton of projects on wedding blogs that aren’t essential and even if they are individually inexepensive they add up.

You may also need to rethink the formality and feel of your wedding. Take a look at everything you’ve booked so far, in some cases even if you’ve put down a small deposit on something it could save you more overall to switch to a cheaper option and lose the deposit. 

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