Already Stressing. Has anyone gone through this before?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

There are a couple of serious alcoholics in our family… we basically designated others to watch them. Actually we didn’t even designate people, they volunteered and designated themselves! They told us that they would take care of it if anything got out of hand and they must have because there was NO drama at our wedding 🙂

Post # 5
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1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Have you considered a brunch reception? It wouldn’t look odd if you had a dry wedding in the morning, and champagne toast is optional. I dont know how much they like to drink, but 10am is a little early to get started. 

Post # 7
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303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Brittanyvictoria7:  That’s too bad – I was thinking a brunch reception would solve the problem too. A candlelit ceremony will be beautiful though 🙂 I’m sure you’ll have people keeping an eye on them, and guests won’t hesitate to remove other guests who are at risk of making your party go sideways. Given that your day is still far off, do you think you and your fiancé could gently voice your concerns to his mom?  Gives her time to cool off if she gets indignant, plus gives her loads of time to reflect on her past behaviour. The last thing she will want is to ruin her son’s wedding…no?

 

Post # 8
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6882 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

@Brittanyvictoria7:  Yeah, I have this problem with FMIL. It’s really quite sad and is heartbreaking and embarassing for my FH to watch. So, we aren’t inviting family to our wedding. GASP. I know. It will just be us and few friends because his mom is a hot mess.

Post # 10
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303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@FutureDrAtkins:  That’s really tough, but you have to do what you have to do to protect your day. Does his mom know yet? How did she take it? More importantly, how did YOUR mom take it?

Post # 12
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11740 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sure things will be fine!  Honestly, people have a way of surprising you at weddings. You can also make sure your coordinator or bartender is aware and have them cut off your FMIL or FI’s aunt if they start getting inappropriate.

Post # 15
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

This is why we are only having beer and wine at our reception and no hard liquor. I have members of my family, and so does my FI, that in no way shape or form can handle their liquor.

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