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    Dizzy    September, 2010   Chicopee, MA:: Wedding in Milwaukee

    I'm still searching for my dress.  FH and I decided on a 1920's themed reception (speakeasy with password, casino tables for non-dancers, Charlston dancing, etc).

    The problem is this:  I don't have the body for a dropped waist dress that were popular then.  I have lots of curves (okay, I'm 40 pounds overweight, at least that what my mom says), a very large chest, and a rather well-endowed rump.  I have love handles AND saddle bags.  I've been exercising, but the weight isn't coming off.

    I'm not sure I have the budget to buy two dresses - a "regular" dress for the ceremony and a shorter flapper dress for the reception. 

    Would it be weird if I wore a regular dress for the ceremony and the reception?  Of course I would bustle the train...I just don't think I look good in sheath like dresses, fuller skirts look better.  So would it be weird?  Or would it be okay?

     
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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    It would be fine. You can always do 20s style hair and makeup, and wear what you feel beautiful in, even if it doesn't feel like it fits your theme! :)

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    It's fine! No one will notice if your dress doesn't perfectly match the theme, no big deal.

     
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    Dizzy    September, 2010   Chicopee, MA:: Wedding in Milwaukee

    Phew! I know it seems silly, but I was so worried about it!

    Thanks!

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I think its fine too.  Just because you're going with a theme doesn't mean you have to rock it head to toe.  I agree that your hair can be the 20's inspired look you're going for.  The idea sounds so fun!  I'd have a ball and so will your guests :)

     
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    Dancy905    February 5, 2010  

    Oooh spaniel I love the idea of the hair. How cool!

    I dunno if you can get your hair to stay like this - but it reminds me of Renee Zellweger in Chicago.

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    Nexus-6    March 12, 2010   Portland

    I majored in Costume Design in school, so I've spent a lot of time looking at clothes from the 20s, and quite frankly those dropped-waist flapper dresses aren't very flattering on anyone. Even if you're 6 feet tall, 100 lbs with no boobs, they still make you look like a big ol' rectangle, which isn't a good look. 

    Personally, I would suggest a more 30s style bias cut gown, something like this: http://www.yourweddingwardrobe.com.au/wedding-gowns-reminicent-of-the-1930s-and-1940s-holywood-glamour/

    They drape beautifully, and look great on curves. 

     
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    Dizzy    September, 2010   Chicopee, MA:: Wedding in Milwaukee

    Thanks Nexus!  I looove those dresses!  Think they'll still look good with lovehandles and saddlebags?  I do have 10 months, maybe they'll come off :)

    And I absolutely love fingerwaves.  I'd have to cut my hair a little shorter, but I've found so many instructions on how to do them..I think I could pull it off.

    And pearls..lots of pearls :)

     
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    Miss Meepsie    01/15/10   NYC

    Love the finger-waves in the hair idea! 

    I agree, you don't have to go all the way 20s - I think as long as you keep it GLAM, you'll be good to go.  Nexus-6 is right - 30s/40s styles drape beautifully and flatter curves way more than the 20s styles, and you'll still have that vintage-chic vibe. 

    I think as long as you stay away from poufy/princessy type of gowns, you'll be good to go.

    Watters has some lovely glam vintagey inspired dresses. 

    http://watters.com/catalog_list.php?coll=brides

     
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    jamie80218    7/10/10   Denver, CO

    Pick a dress that you feel beautiful in. Your wedding is only one day, but the pictures last a lifetime!

     
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    Nexus-6    March 12, 2010   Portland

    I think you'd have to try on some similar styles to see if they work with your body, but as a rule, bias-cut fabric looks good on almost everybody. I googled and found a picture of a model who's not a size 00 wearing a similar dress: http://www.weddingswest.ca/Photos/ACFE75F.jpg

     
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    Dizzy    September, 2010   Chicopee, MA:: Wedding in Milwaukee

    Oooh thanks Nexus!  I think I'm googling the wrong things lol

     
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    Miss Meepsie    01/15/10   NYC

    Also, if you're concerned about extra pounds, you may want to stay away from satiny/shiny materials.  :)  Lace might be a great option since it could contribute to the vintage vibe. 

     
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    Arancia    January 7, 2010  

    I say, accessorize!!! You can add extra elements to your dress after the ceremony is over.. glam it up with your hair, and I love the lace suggestion Miss Meepsie had! Sounds like lots of fun!!

     
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    TingTing    September 12, 2010   Los Angeles

    sorry i don't have any good idea to provide but i just want to say that your theme is soooo awesome!

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    I think it'll be fine! Aceessories can make a difference!

     
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    amariem25    October 2009  

    If you can keep working out until your wedding the weight will probably come off.  You still have a long time.  I worked out the 6 months before my wedding and managed to lose 15 pounds.  If you still have 9 months you could probably lose even more!

     
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    Meowkers    August 27, 2011   Los Angeles, CA

    I say go with a figure hugging gown that has ruching at the waist and a mermaid skirt.  the ruching will make your waist look smaller and will hide any lumps or bumps you're uncomfortable with. (also, look into Spanx.  they're amazing!)  the poof out at the bottow will balance out any top heaviness.  AND it'll look overall glamourous and in theme.  add some fabulous accessories and hair and you've got glam 1920s.

    http://www.brides.com/fashion/dresses/gallery/wedding_dresses/vendor/detail/127098?f=1541%3a1546&f=92%3a96&offset=32

     

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    I love your theme. I am doing a Victorian theme, but my dress is a little more modern. I went with the poufy princessy type gown. It is the one that I felt most comfortable in. Just because your main theme is "1920's themed", it doesn't mean that you can't wear what you want.

     
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    simpleandchic    November 27, 2010   Adelaide, South Australia

    f you want to smooth lumps and bumps get your self some suck in knickers

     
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    Melissabegins    December 12, 2009  

    Nexus - those were some great dresses and great advice :) 

    simpleandchic - you too- love my spanx!

     

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