Alternative Registries

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
Member
2878 posts
Sugar bee

I think it has to suit your crowd, meaning in your family this could be the best idea ever, but for other families, it will not be a good thing. Just like Honeyfunds (which would be a good idea in my family, but is seen as tacky by many people). If your wedding already falls into the familial/casual/relaxed/potluck category, chances are registries that offer services (dog sitting, frozen meals, etc.) will be popular. If you’re having a very formal event, I would assume guests expect more of a traditional event, and therefore a traditional registry. 

Post # 4
mswallabyBee
2070 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

@MexiPino:  I loove that idea! I think it’s awesome!

Post # 6
Member
2878 posts
Sugar bee

Yes, I think they’re great ideas for a shower as well. I mean, at one point we do not need to have 3 household registries for each showers and parties and weddings. Those are still awesome gifts that are useful to the household/couple.

Post # 7
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MexiPino:  Not a fan.  It perpetuates the mistaken notion that one’s friends and family are a source of income that one can direct and spend as they please.  

Post # 9
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MexiPino:  No, I don’t feel the same about traditional registries provided couples don’t advertise their existence.  

I think a lot of horrid behavior is blamed on the traditional registry.  Etiquette allowed them in the name of practicality and ever since, couples have been using that inch to run miles.  

Post # 10
Member
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

What a great idea! I love that you can register for non-monetary gifts. I would love FBIL to teach me piano or someone take us on a rock climbing adventure. It’s not really applicable to us, because we’re sort of asking people do do these things individually for our “gifts” (i.e. SIL is making a slideshow for our present!). But I like that there’s an avenue to request gifts of time, rather than money.

 @Zhabeego:  I like it because it can be used for the opposite of what you’re suggesting. We’re having trouble registering because we DON’T want people to spend money on us and we have everything we need. But gifts of time are awesome 🙂

Post # 11
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Strawberryfarmer:  Yes, gifts of time are awesome.  But its not up to the recipient to choose their own gift.  That’s the problem.  

Post # 12
Member
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Zhabeego:  Well, wouldn’t that be the case for all registries? I see it more as giving a list of potential ideas – not a something you have to abide by. With FIs family, we all pass around gift list ideas for holiday. It’s great because I can use the money I am spedning to purchase something that the person actually wants, instead of some junk they’re just going to throw away. I am so thankful to recieve work out clothes and wool socks and not have to feel guilty throwing away any more smelly lotions or girly crap that I would never use 😀

 

Post # 13
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2428 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think these are great and it just comes down to knowing your guests. I personally love to give something I know is actually wanted, and it doesn’t matter if it’s dog walking, cooking, or whatever! That’s the whole point of me giving someone a gift – because it’s what they want and what makes them happy.

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