Post # 1
My Godmother and Aunt wishes to give me a bridal shower however I hate these. I hate the games the most. Then there is the food which can be worse ( I have myself flanked at my wedding by 2 people I can actually handle eating around and who are sensitive to my OCD- Hubby and sister) Oh and then my registry does not lean itself towards a registry ( trip registry since we have it all). Thus when all my family was together they wanted to talk about what they would do for this… They seem to not want to take no for an answer.My aunt is thinking a shower in a box now I think but this can mean food… It would be donated to the local food bank ( I wouldn’t eat it)… not what they would want. I don’t want to seem ungrateful but I really don’t want a shower or anyone to put the effort into something I would not enjoy.
What alternatives do you think can help both sides of this? I want my family to be happy but I would rather them just come to the wedding and not have these parties…
Post # 3
We don’t have bridal showers where I am from. We have a kitchen tea (a non gift giving event) which sometimes has games (but some don’t) but mostly its a bit of bubbly and some finger food and lots of laughter and chatting.
Other ideas- you could have a garden party or a morning tea. Could you go wine tasting?
Honestly I know OCD can be hard but I think on this occassion you need to suck it up (for lack of better words) because it would be rude to have a get together and not at least offer some light refreshment.
Post # 4
How about having just a bridal tea instead? Without all the games?
Post # 5
I’m not sure about the food part – but you can totally skip the games. My mother and I HATE them~!! We’re not doing any.
Post # 6
there can’t be alcohol I checked… Little people would be there and they want it kid friendly ( can this get worse, there are not even kids at my wedding!) TO be honest I was hoping to elope but a big wedding meant something to both my dad and FI and I am sure one day I will be happier we did it this way anyways. But I have given people a lot of slack on the wedding. Taking that don’t care, hey that works, you like this that’s fine policy to it. This Bridal shower thing was my one thing i didn’t want and yet here I am trying to make my aunts happy so I am somewhat giving into it. They are open to alternatives and they said it isnt about having a party but rather me having something later in life that i can look back on and think “this was from my shower” um ok well this leaves me lost so I guess does anyone have non get together Ideas? I was reading about whats called a shower in a box where people mail something baised on a theme? has anyone done this or know something like it?
Post # 7
You don’t have to have a shower… you can turn it into a pre-wedding celebration. That way it’s hinted that there are no gifts (since showers typically can be a gift giving event). Also as far as food, have some snack type items and some punch and you don’t even have to eat (you can mingle and keep a drink in your hand).