Post # 1
I have 5 Bridesmaids… but am having a hard time with the term “Bridesmaid”. They certainly aren’t virgins and I definitely don’t expect them to mop my floors! I just don’t like all of the DEMANDS that some brides place on their BM’s just because they EXPECT a bunch of work out of them. I just want my best gals to be there, by my side to support me and have FUN on the big day and to help keep me sane while I plan… 🙂 “Attendants” seems OK, but a little… lackluster and boring. Any ideas for a happy medium?! On the same token, my “Matron of Honor” feels like that title gives her an old lady with dozens of cats vibe, not a hip, married chic.
Can’t wait to hear your thoughts! And thank you!
Post # 3
I called mine Bridesmaids and Bridesman, but I did not ask them to do anything for me – except buy a black dress* and show up on time.
(*the bridesman got a tuxedo that I rented for him, I did not ask him to wear a dress)
Post # 4
I think a lot of women share that sentiment about “Matron of Honor,” but so far, I’ve not heard a way around it.
Is “Honor Attendants” any better?
Post # 5
I’m with you. The terms “bridesmaids”, “maid of honor”, or “matron of honor” really bothered me.
I’ve been using “brideswomen” and “bridesman” (my brother is a best man on my side w/my “matron of honor”). In discussing my “bests”, I’ve used “best bro” and “best gal”.
Post # 6
I dont like the term bridesmaids as such, however it really has made the ppl I asked to be bridesmaids feel honoured to be asked to be in the wedding party. The Maid of honour was so happy to be given that title, not that I expect anything from her, it just lets her know she is so important to me. Thats what really the wedding party is about. Ppl that will support you the most through your marriage, and keep you sane when you prepare for the big day
Post # 7
Our friends who stood up with us were all called honored attendants.
Post # 8
Thanks for weighing in ladies! I might end up conforming due to convenience, but we’ll see. Great ideas though!! I may just choose a different wording on our wedding website and on the programs if we have them… like “Bride’s Best Gals” “Groom’s Best Guys” or “On the Bride’s Side” “On the Groom’s Side” 🙂
Post # 9
@HummusGal: LOL @ “they certainly aren’t virgins”! Hahaha.
I heard someone in the hive last week say that they called theirs the “best people”.
Note: I’ve been just shortforming it to “BM” when I talk to the girls, but one of them works in paramedics and ALWAYS thinks “bowel movement” first! Hehe
Post # 10
@Juliepants: HAHAHAHA I think the same thing!!! I also giggle like a school girl when people abbreviate Save the Dates to STD’s 🙂
Post # 11
@janie-janie: HI, Janie! I just have to ask this. Why did you rent a tux for your bridesman…but your girls had to BUY their attire?
Post # 13
My girls are bridesladies and before FI stole him for his own wedding party, I had a bridesdude. My ladies are all married or close to it and they are certainly not my maids. I have a maid of honor who I sometimes call lady of honor.