Post # 1
I don’t want to do the wohle “who gives this woman” part of the ceremony – but I would like to somehow incorporate both sets of parents at that point in the ceremony, sort of asking them both for their blessings….any suggestions?
Post # 3
1.The officiant could ask your parents if they bless this marraige and accept these two people as life partners.
2Officiant: .Others would ask, at this time, who gives the bride in marriage,
but, as a woman is not property to be bought and sold, given and
taken, I ask simply if she comes of her own will and if she has
her family’s blessing.
Julia, is it true that you come of your own free will and accord?
Julia Yes, it is true.
PRIEST With whom do you come and whose blessings accompany you.
FATHER She comes with me, her father, and is accompanied by all
of her family’s blessings.
Post # 4
hmm…that is interesting…we’re hoping to have a little more casual though and that’s a little formal…
Post # 5
I think their blessing is implied in a way, with them being there and bringing you down the aisle and everything. I am getting married in a church and the priest told me they never do the “who gives this bride” bit. He explained that it’s a blessing to have your parents there and that’s all I should ask of them.
Honestly I think when the father of the bride shakes his son in law’s hand and puts her hand in his, he’s showing that he accepts their marriage in a nice, simple way.
Post # 6
@smactley: those were two different options- the first is much more informal
Post # 7
i am having both my parents walk me down the aisle. during the ceremony, there will be a flower giving to our parents – thanking them for all they have done for us in life. maybe you could do something like that?