Alternative to unity candle or sand that kids are part of?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

We’re doing a hand-fasting, you might be able to have them help bind your hands and then each hold onto one end of the end of the cord and write something nice to be read about all being bound together as a family.

Here’s an example

Celebrant: ‘When we think about marriage we immediately visualize the joining of two people. But this is not always so. Marriages unite families and as is the case in many families today, who already have children, they give us a wonderful opportunity to celebrate and embrace some of the other important relationships in our lives.
During a wedding ceremony rings are sometimes exchanged with a promise. As (Bride) and (Groom) are not exchanging rings, but instead binding their hands, they thought appropriate that their children should also take part as a reminder of their promise to them on this day.
They wanted to find a way to let them know now how special and wonderful they are, and how privileged and blessed they feel to be their parents’.
Children step forward and their hands are bound with the parents
Celebrant addresses children:
(Insert children’s names): These are the hands that will support encourage and protect you through all of life’s ups and downs, happy times, sad times, love and we hope, great joy. This binding is a reminder of the love and respect that each of you have for the others and that which will last for a lifetime’.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

Obviously, the example omits exchanging rings..but if you’re doing that you could change that part and edit something like this to make it work for you.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

You’re welcome, glad I could help! You could also make the hand fasting cord yourself and include your children in making it together. Maybe let them choose a color or ribbon they like to represent themselves.

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

emviamama

We tied an actual knot. You could always let the kids help with that too. We are fisherman so we had two ropes that we made one. symbolizing our two lives becoming one. i feel terrible that i cant remember the saying. the priest and us both had our own lines. it was a fishermans knot that they “say” is so strong the rope will break before the knot comes undone. there was something about the harder anything tries to keep these two pieces apart only makes their bond tighter.

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