Post # 1
Hey, bees! (trying to navigate this new layout…aah)<br /><br />I’m looking at bakeries and not only are the prices freaking me out, but I had another thought…prior to dinner, everyone will be served 3 appetizers each. I was thinking maybe we could just get a small, normal-sized cake that FI and I can cut then take home, but what about everyone else? Would you even touch the cake if you already had 3 appetizers + dinner? Our venue lady told me that something like 80% of wedding cake is thrown away at weddings, because guets are too full.<br /><br />I was thinking of the option of cupcakes, but those aren’t necessarily cheaper. I’m just wondering if there are any other alternatives, or if it would be deemed lame to skimp out on cake and go for, say, a dessert tray…
Post # 2
Elrodien: You can have a small cake for cutting, then offer your guests a dessert table with whatever you want to include- cake, pies, trifle, cookies etc.
Post # 3
I think a dessert table is a way better idea, since not everyone likes cake anyway. I don’t think it would be weird to cut a little wedding cake for you and FI and then direct everyone toward a dessert table, either.
Post # 4
I think if you are going to serve dinner you should certainly serve dessert, but dessert does not need to be wedding cake.
At my wedding the dinner buffet included a full dessert buffet and no one touched the wedding cake. I don’t think they ever even cut it up!
Totally fine to just get a small cake for the ceremony, or even to skip the cake cutting ceremony all together.
Post # 5
Elrodien: I don’t know what it’s like where you’re from or what the difference in price is but lots of people are doing cupcakes instead around here with only a very small wedding cake for cutting.
Personally, we are skipping it all together and just having a dessert table
Post # 6
Personally, I always have dessert, particularly at a wedding when the food might not be something I particularly care for. I wouldn’t mind a sweet table instead (that is what we are doing- I actually prefer other desserts to cake), but that really isn’t any cheaper unless you DIY. Sometimes venues offer a deal on a dessert bar (they bundle it in with other things)
Post # 7
We’re doing mini cupcakes and allowing 2-3 per person. We’re cutting a small cake as well.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I love cake so I was would be a bit sad if I got no cake. BUT as long as there is something for dessert, I’d be happy. I would not just skip it all together though because you think people will be too full.
Post # 9
I usually eat fruit, for my dessert, but I would kill to have a tower of glazed doughnuts.
Post # 10
I think you need some kind of dessert. I always save room for dessert at weddings. Even if it’s just a small slice of cake that I split with my husband. Also, cake is generally not served right after dinner, so you have some time to digest.
We didn’t want to do the big traditional wedding cake so we did a homemade dessert bar. I asked about a dozen friends and family to make a dessert and we had tons of options. I made cookies and rum cake. My husband made sweet potato pie. My grandmother made confetti cake (which we cut for the “cutting of the cake”). My cousin made fudge. His aunt made a pumpkin roll. My sister made chess bars… It was a ton of fun and super yummy. We really wanted to be able to include as many people as possible in as many different aspects of the wedding as possible, so this was a nice way to incorporate people and give it a “homey” feel.
Post # 11
Elrodien: we had cake as part of our wedding package but we also had a dessert table. mini cheese cake bites, macaroons, and little desserts in cups with spoons not sure what to call them.
Post # 12
We’re not doing a wedding cake, we’re doing 3 macaron towers of varying sizes. I don’t care for cake, nor does my FI.
We’ll also have a cheese spread, and simple desserts like creme brulee and flourless chocolate cake.
Post # 13
Cupcakes are usually much cheaper than cake. For us, cupcakes would be 1/3 to 1/2 the price of a cake. But I also like most cake better than most cupcakes. some vendors will make a smaller tiered cake for half your guests or so and have the rest of the slices (in same exact flavors) as “kitchen cake” to cut down on your costs. That can cut the price of cake by 1/2 or by 1/3.
as long as cake is served to guests at their tables and no extra is ordered, I’ve been to a number of weddings where there are only a few slices “left over” and those have been devoured at after parties (or perhaps in hotel rooms before after parties w hands and no utensils 😉 for those who couldn’t wait).
I’ve only been to one wedding where a candy or dessert bar/table was eaten by many or really any guests. Usually, from the weddings I’ve been to, if food is served plated, but then cake/dessert is at some table, it all gets left and thrown in the trash because guests are tipsy and keep waiting on cake to be served plated at their table. Nobody hears the dj’s announcement or feels like searching for the dessert table (even when it’s in the same room as the reception).
Post # 14
ajillity81: Those macaroons are making my mouth water!
Post # 15
Elrodien: I would do a dessert table. I had cupcakes, and they honestly weren’t any cheaper than a cake would have been for the amount of people we wanted to serve, so check into that. Unless you maybe do mini cupcakes? But I would have some sort of dessert.