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My husband and I did an anniversary dance in lieu of the garter and bouquet tosses. We wanted to honor all the married/committed couples and started with everyone on the dance floor. Our DJ played Spandau Ballet's "True" for two reasons: 1) it's a nice long song, and 2) we are cheesy!
It was kind of like a dance-off ("if you've been married for 6 hours or less, please leave the floor" - we were the first to leave :)), where the longest married couple "won" our bouquet and garter. People seemed to really enjoy it, and it was fun for us newlyweds to give these wedding-day items to a couple who had been married for 49 years and would be celebrating their 50th in just a couple months!
ok im wierd - but i think it would be so fun to do the (cheesy) limbo or musical chairs!! it's so cheesy that it's fun in a dfferent kinda way?!?!?
(i see people cringing as i type that!!)
We're doing a bouquet toss but not the garter thing. One thing I might do that our florist suggested...the bouquet to toss is a big group of flowers tied loosely with a ribbon. When you take the bouquet, you secretly take off the ribbon and toss, and the flowers go everywhere and every girl gets one. It's called a breakaway bouquet or something.
Aww, that's such a cute idea, AC! I think I might try something like that.
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We're just doing a bouquet toss and leaving out the garter toss. You don't need to leave out the bouquet toss if you just don't want the garter toss. It's fine to do one without the other. A lot of couples seem to be opting not to do the garter toss these days
We are actually leaning the other way. Most of our single friends are guys. The few single girls we have at the wedding have already expressed that they don't want to catch the bouquet. My FH's grandmother isn't in the best health. Should she pass before the wedding, we are going to arrange to have the bouquet placed on her grave. If she doesn't, we might give it to her or the couple married the longest. Then we are going to use the garter toss to lighten the mood after explaining our choices to our guests.
Yeah - no garter toss for us either - though I did love Mrs. Gardenia's twist on it!! That would be the only way I'd do it!
I do want the bouquet toss - thinking about opening it up to ANYONE who wants the bouquet - make it equal opportunity.
I think we'll also do the anniversary dance, as well.
At a wedding I went to about a year ago, the bride broke her bouquet into pieces and handed each single girl a piece of it . . . and lo and behold, here I am a year later, marrying the best man! So I guess it worked!
I'm going to do this too. It's nice if you're single becuase you don't feel like such a loser in front of everyone, and you still feel like you're getting some luck or whatever from a piece of the bouquet.
I like the 'dance-off' idea, but as a 36-year old single girl (up until I met my FI), I hated sitting through those things, it made being an 'old maid' at a wedding feel even worse for me. Maybe I'm overly sensitive to the singleton's plight, but I want to be very careful about all of those things to not upset my single girlfriends.
The split bouquet is also called a fortune bouquet. And you tie strips of paper with the fortune to each smaller bouquet (i.e. you will marry the next man you see). A friend did this a while back.
When it got to the garter, they didn't just throw the garter, they threw several items out...boa, big panties, GI Joe doll, etc. It was really fun, and we're going to do the same.
I've been to lots of weddings where the bride presents the bouquet instead of tossing it. Usually to her mom or to her sister, but sometimes someone else special.
For ours (we did both bouquet & garter tosses), instead of only calling up the single people, we asked EVERYONE to come up b/c the tradition was originally that someone who got a piece of the bride's outfit would have good luck/share in the couple's luck in love (I read it both ways in different books); therefore, we wanted to spread the fortune we'd found with EVERYONE, not just the single people. It was really cute -- his aunt caught my bouquet, and she was so excited! (She and her husband have been married for ages.) We did the garter toss the same way, but a single guy caught it.
I also just heard about someone who did the garter toss by having the groomsmen (I think it was only the GMs) armwrestle for it.
Oh yeah, and you can totally pick and choose. If you don't want to do the garter thing, just skip it! Maybe your guy can throw his boutenneire if you want to include something for the guys to catch.
Were not doing the garter dance cause my fiancee gets raunchey and rude when he's been drinking. So he is going to throw a little black address book with ph#'s to nearest adult stores inside.
Plus I dont want my boss or future in laws to see my knickers and garter belt, thats something I save for my fiance.......
I'm GIVING the bouquet away to the longest married couple that attends the wedding, and were going to say that we hope to be married as long as them yada yada yada
Love the idea of a breakaway bouquet with tags...that way no one is singled out.
I also had never heard of everyone getting a chance at it, although I think I first read it as all single girls and single guys, instead of all singles or married's! LOL
FI definitely doesn't want to do the garter thing. i think it can be done tastefully, but this is one battle I don't need to have. So maybe, I do invite all single gals and guys(!) to catch my surprise "bursting" bouquet...hmmm...
put some cash inside the bouquet and have everyone go for it. :)
we did neither... we knew about 2 single people at our wedding and really didn't want to single them out. Besides, the idea of my hubby going up my dress in front of our closest friends and family just gave me the creeps!
What did we do instead... nothing. no one realized we left it out. 
tivoli, I think you can definitely have one without the other. I think enough people have become weary of the groom beneath the bride's dress fishing out the garter. Ugh...yeah, I see why so many more couples are ditching that tradition! Do what makes you happiest! Toss the bouquet, and no one has to remember that the garter dance didn't happen. :)
Limesnall, oopsie! Ha ha! I realized that yeah, I wasn't terribly clear on that, was I? I did mean all the women for the bouquet (single & married) and same for the guys and the garter. 
Like louvigilante, we only had a small handful of single people and we didn't want to make them feel icky by being called out that way.
I really like the idea of having guys & girls come up to catch a fortune bouquet! That's really cute. (But maybe split it so the groom throws half to the guys so no unsuspecting gals get crunched by an overly enthusiastic large dude...)
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I personally don't want to do the garter toss, so I figure we can't do the boquet toss as well since the two kinda complement each other. What are some alternatives we could do instead?