Alternatives to the Garter Toss/Bouquet Toss?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2007

My husband and I did an anniversary dance in lieu of the garter and bouquet tosses.  We wanted to honor all the married/committed couples and started with everyone on the dance floor.  Our DJ played Spandau Ballet’s "True" for two reasons: 1) it’s a nice long song, and 2) we are cheesy!

It was kind of like a dance-off ("if you’ve been married for 6 hours or less, please leave the floor" – we were the first to leave :)), where the longest married couple "won" our bouquet and garter.  People seemed to really enjoy it, and it was fun for us newlyweds to give these wedding-day items to a couple who had been married for 49 years and would be celebrating their 50th in just a couple months!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

ok im wierd – but i think it would be so fun to do the (cheesy) limbo or musical chairs!!  it’s so cheesy that it’s fun in a dfferent kinda way?!?!?

(i see people cringing as i type that!!)

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

We’re doing a bouquet toss but not the garter thing. One thing I might do that our florist suggested…the bouquet to toss is a big group of flowers tied loosely with a ribbon. When you take the bouquet, you secretly take off the ribbon and toss, and the flowers go everywhere and every girl gets one. It’s called a breakaway bouquet or something. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Aww, that’s such a cute idea, AC!  I think I might try something like that.

 

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2008

We’re just doing a bouquet toss and leaving out the garter toss. You don’t need to leave out the bouquet toss if you just don’t want the garter toss. It’s fine to do one without the other. A lot of couples seem to be opting not to do the garter toss these days

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

We are actually leaning the other way.  Most of our single friends are guys.  The few single girls we have at the wedding have already expressed that they don’t want to catch the bouquet.  My FH’s grandmother isn’t in the best health.  Should she pass before the wedding, we are going to arrange to have the bouquet placed on her grave.  If she doesn’t, we might give it to her or the couple married the longest.  Then we are going to use the garter toss to lighten the mood after explaining our choices to our guests.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Yeah – no garter toss for us either – though I did love Mrs. Gardenia’s twist on it!! That would be the only way I’d do it!

 

I do want the bouquet toss – thinking about opening it up to ANYONE who wants the bouquet – make it equal opportunity.

 

I think we’ll also do the anniversary dance, as well. 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2008

At a wedding I went to about a year ago, the bride broke her bouquet into pieces and handed each single girl a piece of it . . . and lo and behold, here I am a year later, marrying the best man!  So I guess it worked!

I’m going to do this too.  It’s nice if you’re single becuase you don’t feel like such a loser in front of everyone, and you still feel like you’re getting some luck or whatever from a piece of the bouquet. 

I like the ‘dance-off’ idea, but as a 36-year old single girl (up until I met my FI), I hated sitting through those things, it made being an ‘old maid’ at a wedding feel even worse for me.  Maybe I’m overly sensitive to the singleton’s plight, but I want to be very careful about all of those things to not upset my single girlfriends.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

The split bouquet is also called a fortune bouquet.  And you tie strips of paper with the fortune to each smaller bouquet (i.e. you will marry the next man you see).  A friend did this a while back. 

When it got to the garter, they didn’t just throw the garter, they threw several items out…boa, big panties, GI Joe doll, etc.  It was really fun, and we’re going to do the same.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

I’ve been to lots of weddings where the bride presents the bouquet instead of tossing it.  Usually to her mom or to her sister, but sometimes someone else special.

For ours (we did both bouquet & garter tosses), instead of only calling up the single people, we asked EVERYONE to come up b/c the tradition was originally that someone who got a piece of the bride’s outfit would have good luck/share in the couple’s luck in love (I read it both ways in different books); therefore, we wanted to spread the fortune we’d found with EVERYONE, not just the single people.  It was really cute — his aunt caught my bouquet, and she was so excited! (She and her husband have been married for ages.)  We did the garter toss the same way, but a single guy caught it.

I also just heard about someone who did the garter toss by having the groomsmen (I think it was only the GMs) armwrestle for it.

Oh yeah, and you can totally pick and choose.  If you don’t want to do the garter thing, just skip it!  Maybe your guy can throw his boutenneire if you want to include something for the guys to catch. 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Were not doing the garter dance cause my fiancee gets raunchey and rude when he’s been drinking. So he is going to throw a little black address book with ph#’s to nearest adult stores inside.

 Plus I dont want my boss or future in laws to see my knickers and garter belt, thats something I save for my fiance…….

I’m GIVING  the bouquet away to the longest married couple that attends the wedding, and were going to say that we hope to be married as long as them yada yada yada

 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Love the idea of a breakaway bouquet with tags…that way no one is singled out.

 I also had never heard of everyone getting a chance at it, although I think I first read it as all single girls and single guys, instead of all singles or married’s!  LOL

 FI definitely doesn’t want to do the garter thing.  i think it can be done tastefully, but this is one battle I don’t need to have.  So maybe, I do invite all single gals and guys(!) to catch my surprise "bursting" bouquet…hmmm…

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2005

put some cash inside the bouquet and have everyone go for it. 🙂

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2007

we did neither… we knew about 2 single people at our wedding and really didn’t want to single them out.  Besides, the idea of my hubby going up my dress in front of our closest friends and family just gave me the creeps! 

 What did we do instead… nothing.  no one realized we left it out. 

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