Alternatives to Unity Candles

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Forest and Ball Room

We liked the unity cross idea. Or writing letters to eachother and opening on your 10 year anniversary. Also look into the “rose ceremony” 🙂

Post # 3
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

andreagrace:  We’re doing a knot tying/braiding ceremony 🙂

It’s similar to hand fasting but not quite the same. Some people do a ring warming; passing the ring around for everyone to touch, works better with small weddings.

 ETA: PP reminded me with the letters, we were going to nail letters and a bottle of wine into an anniversary box but we feel our family officiant would frown on the wine 😉

Post # 5
2798 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


andreagrace:  My friends have done rose ceremony (each parent gives their child a rose to give to the other as their first gift of marriage)  I have also seen a unity drink where they mix a drink together that the bride and groom share. 

I love this Unity glass, but it’s very expensive

Post # 6
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think hand fasting is something that some people do as a “combining” type of ceremony.

Post # 7
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

andreagrace:  I love the unity tree! 

Bride and Groom each add soil and water to the pot of their tree and they can later plant it in their yard.  If you don’t have a yard, an indoor plant or tree would work as well.  I’ve also heard of couples using soil from their childhood homes to make it more sentimental.

Post # 9
2791 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

I saw one where they each poured wine into a carfe 1 red and 1 white and did a toast. 

Post # 10
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

 We are deciding to do 2 a  foot washing cermony (were going to be on the beach/garden in Jamaica) and the four elements of marriage.


Foot washing ceremony to show that we will humble ourselves to take care of & allow to be taken care of.


Vinegar, lemon, cayenne pepper, and honey are used to represent the bitter, sour, hot, and the  sweet parts of life and a new marriage


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