(Closed) Alternatives to Unity Candle/Sand Ceremony?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
12877 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I saw on Four Weddings a couple who made a martini-like drink (one poured in liquor, one poured in juice or sometihng), shook it, and had their first drink.  The drink was also a signature drink at the wedding.  I thought it was pretty fun…not something I’d do, but definitely fun for a less formal event!

Post # 4
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We are doing the handwrapping ceremony which was our ministers suggestion.

Post # 5
11 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are doing a love letter ceremony…you each write a letter to one another, place it in the box (with wine and glasses, if you’d like) and seal it up.  You open it at a special anniversary (like 10, 15 years) and read the letter you wrote to eachother.  

Post # 6
1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This site has a few ideas:


Taken from the site:

  • Rose Ceremony: A simple unity ceremony where the bride and groom exchange roses. Other variations: the families exchange roses, the bride and groom exchange roses with their families, the bride and groom exchange roses, then present their mothers with the roses. 
  • Wine Ceremony: The bride and groom each take a carafe of wine and pour it into a single glass, which they both drink from. 
  • “Molly is also planning to use is a Truce Bell. A bell is rung on the wedding day, the happiest day of the couple’s lives and then is placed in a central location in the home. If the couple starts to argue, one of them can ring the truce bell, reminding them both of that happiness and hopefully ending the disagreement quickly. “

We plan on doing something additional at our ceremony that you may like. Have you seen the wine box idea that’s been floating around the last few months? You put a bottle of wine in a box and then each of you puts letters that you write to each other in the box. Then you seal it up until an anniversary of your choice. We’re thinking of using the box every ten years. We’ll just replace the bottle of wine and add a new letter to the ones in the box.

Post # 7
674 posts
Busy bee

I went to a wedding where there was a beer sharing ceremony. Even with a guy who is a homebrewer and as a couple who enjoy drinking, it was a little odd to us. But, we could see that the couple was happy and had a good time with it.

Post # 8
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re doing a hand blessing at our ceremony. I originally wanted to do unity candles, but as soon as I read through the hand blessing ceremony I was just in love with it. You can read an example of it here, or just google “hand blessing ceremony” 🙂

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