Always onto the next big thing……………..

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Stanley House Inn

Oh this is a fun one, and completely reversed between DH and I. I’m a “typical Leo” and it is always the “Next Big Thing!” for me as well. The good news is that our opposites can ground us out. My DH is very calm – to the point where I don’t understand it at times, and is happy to just truck on in the same direction as long as it is moving forward. Me? I’m always on the NBT train. “I’m going to do this, then this, and this and this and this!”  He slows me down a bit – he encourages me every step of the way, but also helps me remember that a lot of my “grand schemes” take a lot of work – but he never reminds me that the last one didn’t work out. Typically because I became disinterested. 

I think the best thing you can do here is take a piece of your calm and pass it along to him. Maybe help shape his ideas into feasible actions instead of the next big idea. Leos are real go-getters, but we’re so busy trying to achieve everything that we rarely actually achieve the greatness we seek. 

He needs balance – he needs you to slow him down a bit. Don’t discourage him and I’d even help him realize what is really possible, but also realize what needs to go into whatever the NBT is.

I’m fairly certain his daydreams about running away are not to get away from you. I love to dream about leaving it all behind and chasing my next dream – but I also recognize that I’m very happily married and I would make him go with me. I actually assume, when I dream about moving or travelling or taking a new job in a new city that he will be there. He would, because he supports my NBTs and he’s super mellow.

 

You be the planner, let him do the dreaming – you can probably work out a really good situation with those.

DH grounds me out. He pulls me back to earth when I start chasing stars. On the flip side, I make him be spontaneous whether it’s a lazy day to recharge or a random adventure at all hours of the night.

Also – you brought it up, but I’m not sure how big you are into the zodiac stuff, but Leo’s are fiercely loyal to their family. We take pride in our family being cared for, nurtured, and defended. We also crave a tight-knit family unit – hence the wife and kids. The cool thing, should he be typical, is that he will value you and honor you throughout, but will also drag you along on his adventures – because we share our adventures with those we love.

 

TL;DR – you’ve probably noticed that SO is always chasing the NBT but they rarely pan out because he typically loses interest. Help balance him out with your planning and support, and remember that he’s an adventurous person and he’ll help you out of your shell.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

This is your third post about this guy (at least) questioning if you should stay with him. You third post about him not making you a priority in his future (or present) or not settling down with you.

I would really question if he is as invested in this relationship as you are, and if you want the same things.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

ClaudiaKishi:  agreed. I also thought I remembered the OP posting not too long ago that they broke up, but I can’t find the thread…not sure if it was deleted or if I am mistaken about that. 

DariaVixen:  be careful about becoming overly invested in someone who doesn’t make you a priority. (I speak from personal past experience)

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

I have to agree with the ladies above.

Now that he doesn’t have his political career to focus on, he has to find some other professional outlet. He is 100% career driven. If you are family/relationship driven, then you need to either settle in and learn how to play second fiddle or break it off and find someone that can dedicate more time to you.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I can be like that at times. I crave adventure and excitement, and it takes a lot to keep me mentally stimulated and fulfilled. However, I’ve learned to channel that, at least most of the time. Not every day is going to be an adventure, and he needs to accept that. If he needs projects, so be it. I jump into cross stitch or a new book with enthusiasm, only to abandon it quickly. But, a cross stitch kit is $5 on eBay, and my life isn’t altered when I’m done. I do have my adventures, but I’ve learned to love coming home to stability when they’re done.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

WestCoastV:  I also thought the OP posted about breaking up, but I don’t see it anymore either….

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