Post # 1
Help? I’m a more sexual person than my husband is– I’ve kind of always been this way since the beginning of our relationship. He is very affectionate, always gives hugs, kisses, and LOVES to cuddle, but sometimes I just have the urge to tear his clothes off more than I think he would naturally choose to engage.
He’s on Lexapro, which kind of mutes the sex drive, so I get that. I’ve recently been put on Synthroid, because my thyroid doesn’t do its job properly. An effect of the additional hormones in my system makes me even more amped up. I just feel bad sometimes demanding more sex than I think DH can physically deal with comfortably. Anyone else have kind of an imbalence in mojo relative to their partner, and how do you deal with it?
Post # 3
if its a problem is there another medication they can give him that wont mess with his sex drive? Its worth taking to the doctor about.
Post # 4
I don’t think so. SSRI’s generally have that side effect, which is ok. It’s not like he NEVER wants to have fun, but sometimes I get the “Oh my god, you’re going to kill me!” face from him.
Post # 5
This is where pleasuring yourself comes in handy. I have always had a high libido and I learned years ago that sometimes it was just easier to take care of myself. Now if DH wakes up when I am in the midst and wants to join in all the better. But there are times when he is not around and I want some. So I take care of myself. If you are not comfortable with that then this would obviously not be an option…lol.
Post # 6
@StormyRose: Thanks! It’s not that I’m uncomfortable with it so much as I enjoy the company of a real human much better. 😉 But ya gotta do what ya gotta do.
Post # 7
what about toys? you could both get familiar with them & learn what you like & that way you wouldn’t necessarily be flying solo all the time but would also be putting less physical strain on your husband.