Am I a bad parent for being happy?

posted 2 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

While I’m not a parent I could see me feeling this way! I have 6 nieces and nephews and I love playing with them but I also love when they go home so I can listen to the quiet again. I feel this way when my SO leaves too and I’m home alone. Love him to death but it’s nice to have some alone time too!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  Lcturner3.
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Peach_Cobbler:  completely normal. We all need our time to regroup so we don’t kill them!!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think this is totally fine. I’m expecting my first in a few weeks and am sure I’ll feel that way from time to time. I don’t know that we’ll be in a position to afford daycare if one of us is home, but we certainly do have in-laws and great family who would be happy to take the baby for when I / we need a break, and I don’t think that makes you a bad parent at all. 

Are you feeling judged for it?

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

There is no sound as sweet to the parent of a small child as the sound of an empty house. haha

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Normal and nothing to feel bad about lol!

I went through the same emotions when I went back to work 1 year after my DD was born. I LOVE being mommy, so I was shocked when the time away from her at work was actually something I kind of enjoyed…and now, the rare days that I get to myself when I am at home, not at work, and DD is at daycare, I am in glory. We all need a break sometimes. It doesn’t make us bad parents..I think it actually makes us better!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I have a 2.5 years old and a 10 month old. Once a week, my MIL takes one of them so I have the day “off” – I spend the day alone with just one! I love that day! 🙂 If you’re a bad mother for loving it, then I’m a member of that club as well.. Now we should meet up and get drunk while the kids play unsupervised! 🙂

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

The way I see it, you’re not going to be the best mother you can be if you’re run ragged and exhausted- mentally and/or physically!  It’s important to recharge yourself so you have more to give.  It’s all about balance!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel

 

Peach_Cobbler:  Do you think you’re a bad parent or is this rhetorical?

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Peach_Cobbler:  There is nothing wrong with wanting a little time to yourself. It’s important that you continue to grow as a person and not just as a mom 🙂

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

It’s called still being a person even though you are also a parent.  It’s a good thing because it most likely helps you to appreciate the time you spend with your kid (which is still signifcant compared to many working parents without the option of staying home.)  No matter how stressed you get during your full days, you can look forward to a few days off.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

 

Peach_Cobbler:  Very normal!  My son goes to daycare full time.  The week of the 4th of July we didn’t have daycare and I took the week off to spend time with him. I love my little guy and would do anything for him but yeah I am so not made to be at SAHM.  I do enjoy my time with him but he is also in the terrible two’s almost 3 stage so everything is almost a struggle

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

Peach_Cobbler: Parenting is the most difficult job you will ever have. It is 24/7 with no vacations or days off. Should you feel bad for enjoying a little me time? No way.

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