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First of all, conratulations on your engagement!
You're not a bad person but I do think you should just get over it. There are only so many ways to propose and he just may not be that creative when it comes to stuff like that. I'm wondering if perhaps you are more upset about the fact that this is another instance of him not hearing you, which may be a bigger problem, but try not to fixate on how you didn't get your "dream proposal" whatever that may have been because ultimately it doesn't matter. You'll be marrying a man you love and that's the point of the whole thing, isn't it?
Yeah, I know you're right. I know for sure I'm more focused on whether or not this is a larger underlying issue. You know what--it's a great day, and I have someone who loves me. I'm going to go celebrate with him. I think I just needed to write that post and vent!
Are you sure he didn't misunderstand? Maybe he thought that you were looking for a proposal like this. Or were describing the coworker's proposal by saying how much you disliked how her proposal went?
You're not a bad person but honestly just let it go and enjoy your engagement. This is the man you love and now will spend your life with. In this day and age don't dwell on yesterday cuz it over and enjoy today cuz tomorrow is not promised. Love your man and his proposal no matter how unoriginal it was. He chose you to be his wife.
Congratulations!!
I think guys need a little leewway when it comes to this stuff- they are so nervous they mess up the details. At least his heart was in the right place.... you can laugh about it later.
Congrats on your engagement!
My first thought is this - he's a guy. You've mentioned the other proposal a few other times in the past - maybe he thought you were giving him a hint that that proposal is what you wanted?
He was probably trying to do something he thought you'd really like.
I think there was no way to misunderstand it because he was present for her proposal (we work in the same hospital). It's a great proposal, I think I really was mroe tiffed about a possible underlying issue. But hey, he and I will talk about a few weeks from now. I think now is not the time to bring it up :)
I agree. Don't bring it up with him now. Focus on the good part - that you're engaged! I think he would probably feel bad if you said something to him right away.
Congrats on the engagement!! I agree with pp that you need to just let this one go. If this not listening to you thing is a common theme in your relationship, by all means talk to him. But use other examples. Guys are very sensitive about the way they choose to propose generally and it could really hurt him to use this as a point of contention.
You already set a wedding date!? Sounds like you're more excited than you let on. Don't worry about the proposal...I was a little disappointed with mine too but when you start opening bridal magazines and picking dresses you'll forget about the proposal all so quickly :) CONGRATS!!
smile and deal with it...he meant well. IT is the effort not the effect. Right?
focus on the good part (the engagement!!) and try not to dwell on the proposal too much. I personally did not even get a proposal (it was more like a discussion)and i kind of wished i had but in the end, it did not matter. so much pressure is put on guys - they do the best they can.
Is it possible that he thought you were dropping a hint? Maybe he thought that you were trying to get this kind of a proposal since you mentioned it several times. He might have actually been listening well.
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My boyfriend (fiance now) just proposed. He and I are very much in love. I adore him so much. However, he proposed in the same way that I told him someone proposed to this other woman at work I cannot stand. It's a lovely proposal, but I had told him about it more than once....
I love him so much and want to be so excited, but I just can't help feeling let down and like he doesn't hear me at all. It's been a point of argument since the beginning how he doesn't always register what I'm saying.
I don't know how to feel. I'm half crazy excited and half of me is a little disappointed. I also feel like a horrid person for even being the least bit unthankful about this proposal because I know he put a lot of hard work into it...(but then again how hard was the idea to come up with? I don't know.) .