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Just to be clear... you are suggesting you and your FI stay home together for Christmas morning?
If that is the case I think its totally fine! I believe that Christmas is supposed to be about your nuclear family. Extended family is great but your immediate family has to come first. Starting your own tradition doesn't sound like a bad thing :)
@cinema: what a great idea!! we actually started doing this at my mom's, she has a huge family and the older we've gotten the more we just enjoy being with our immediate family... we spent thanksgiving at home, but i'm hoping to be in tn during christmas... it remains to be seen if we'll be able to be there yet... sigh.... i sort of love the bustle of traveling to the families and the noise and laughter and kids and crowds of going to the family's house.
@corgi - yes. He and I have already discussed how it will work and I actually don't mind it so much. It would be like splitting a holiday the weekend before, then actually enjoying the holiday, to me.
@crebre and both of you have kids so I can totally understand loving spending time with the immediate family.
Something else we've discussed is just renting a house (our families live on the beach so lots to choose from) with a big kitchen and dining area and "hosting" christmas there, since our families live close but we will not. Any other ideas/thoughts, hive?
love the renting of the house!! i'd love to do something very similar as well.. and yeppers our kiddies force a lot of our choices :D... when they are off at school, i think we'll be doing a lot of traveling during the holidays just the two of us... christmas in paris, on the beach in the carribean, sigh...
lol cre i love the idea of christmas in paris! If FI's birthday wasn't christmas eve, we'd go to different places too... probably someday when we're wrinkly and retired and just want to celebrate with us! haha
Holidays are our BIGGEST sticking point right now! It will absolutely kill me to spend Christmas away from my parents when it happens, but our parents are 6 hours away from eachother and we'll live 12 hours away from BOTH of them eventually. I think it's totally okay to do Christmas by yourself in the morning! I'd LOVE to do that!
BTW, I haven't talked to you in FOREVER! So HI!
@KM i guess i'm a non-sentimentalist, lol. :) I'm ok with that though.
and yeah, Hi back at you!! I almost messaged you a few minutes ago but... it was just going to be to say hi! So i backed out, haha. :)
I think it's great to spend time with your FI on the day of Christmas. As long as you go and spend time with both families around the holiday, it's completely fine!
To be honest Christmas day itself doesn't mean THAT much to me regardless. My favorite thing is the week before Christmas. I love the shopping, the wrapping, the baking... so fun! I am looking forward to when my parents move to my town bc then I can get to do all that getting ready stuff with my mom and spend christmas morning in my OWN house!
I don't think that's wrong at all! It sounds like it'll fit very naturally with what both your families are doing anyway, and you'll still get to spend time with both of them -- everyone wins!
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So I got "The Nest for Knotties" email today and looked at the part about splitting up holidays... and so many people split their holidays by either switching or doing both families same day.
While this is a viable option for us (our families live 30 minutes away from each other), I'm not a fan of the whole "Christmas at other people's houses." Even if it's mine or his childhood home, I feel like we should wake up in our own beds and exchange gifts in front of our own tree. My extended family does a holiday celebration the weekend before each major holiday so each family can be on their own for the actual holiday, and his family is starting something rather like that since his brother's live-in very serious girlfriend leaves the weekend before to go spend time with her family in the north.
So... am I a Grinch for not wanting to split my holiday time? I love our families, but I don't think I can do the driving, the worrying about time, the stress of holidays that always results in arguments for both our families... sigh. Are any of you considering this?