(Closed) Am I a horrible person

posted 7 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Can you give more information?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Well I guess more info is needed, but if it’s because you fully support his career decision and everything that includes, and you’re okay with the fact that it will mean time apart—then the short answer is no. You’re not a horrible person. You’re someone who supports their fiance.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I really don’t know. I mean…it’s not cause you secretly hate him and don’t want him around I assume.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You are far from a horrible person… I think once its set in stone and/or the day is approaching you will feel different. My FI’s brothers FI at the time (they are married now) of him being deployed again had the same feelings. She new it was what he had his heart set on and it was his duty but once the day was set and she realized the time was going by so fast she felt differently.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think some people are just set up and understand what they are getting into when they are with someone in the military. Although, the fact that you are asking the question points to the fact that you feel guilty about not having some horrible reaction to him leaving. Don’t. You’re ok with it and that’s good.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

@Mrs.Vowrenewal:i dont think its horrible! just not the reaction i would have lol but we are all differnt people 🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

I don’t think you’re horrible either.  Is he actually going sometime soon? 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

o_O no?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

Have you guys been through deployment together before?

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

No I don’t think you’re a terrible person at all!  I think it’s awesome that you’re ok with his career choice and aren’t dragging him down being miserable with him leaving.  DH is getting ready to leave for basic, followed by 8-10 months of training around the country, and I’m not going with him.  We’re treating it like a deployment, basically, even though there’ll be times where I can go visit.

For me, I’m ok with it, but I’m not jumping up and down, counting down the days till he’s gone.  I realize this is how life is, I’m excited for US with this choice, and can’t wait to go through this tough, yet amazing thing as a couple.  A lot of my friends/family give me pity looks and “oh wow… that sucks” and honestly, I do have my moments where I get teary, but I’m actually getting really excited for this new chapter!

So yeah, I know it’s going to suck being alone and not having a SO to be with, but I still have my life and I have a LOT I want to accomplish in this next year before our first PCS… I think I’m dreading that more… 😉

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