Am I a terrible person?

posted 2 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Newbee

 

PortiaPie:  Only once or twice have I thought of my ex but he is not nearly as attractive as my FI, it is not about looks but about missing excitement I think.. You?

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

PortiaPie:  Personally no, but I don’t really have celebrity crushes or anything like that.  It seems like having fantasies and crushes can be part of a normal relationship for other people though.  I think as long as it’s not hurting your relationship, it’s not a big deal.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I have fantasized about other scenarios during, but not other people. Primarily, different positions and stuff (sorry, I am a little bit prudish when it comes to going into details). When I am taking care of my own business, well, that’s a different story. I fantasize about whatever I want. I don’t think I could fantasize about another person while being intimate with FI. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I occasionally fantasize about other people when my FI and I are having sex, but it’s pretty rare. My “me time”, however, is a whole other story, lol.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t fantasize about other people, with FI or solo. I’m never tempted to during sex. I have been tempted while solo (either a faceless, nameless stranger or a sexy character from a show), but I shut that down. I don’t think it’s harmless or appropriate to imagine sex with anyone but my (almost) spouse.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You are not a terrible person. A lot of people do this.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

PortiaPie:  

Of course you aren’t terrible babe! So many people fantasize about others during sex.

I fantasize about this man right here: 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

PortiaPie:  

Looks like we are both terrible! 

Fantasizing about a celebrity does not mean that I love my sexy hubby any less. It isn’t as if I spend all of our lovemaking sessions thinking about someone else. 

 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  amiona.
Post # 12
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Helper bee

OMG, that’s horrible.  Sorry, but when you are with your SO and being intimate, and you are thinking about someone else… Something’s not right there. I just, can’t.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’re normal. Dont let anyone make you feel like your a bad partner for this.

I cant stand when women try to act like “OMG clutch my pearls…I would never”… whatever.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

bklynbridetobe:  

Right? It must be terribly boring to be so prudish. 

It is one thing to have an affair in real life…quite another to simply fantasize.

Fantasies can spice up sex lives in an electrifying way. I suppose a woman needs to be very comfortable with her sexuality to realize that attraction to others and fantasies are harmless.

I’m sure my husband fantasizes about other women. He has never told me so but it wouldn’t surprise me or make me jealous if he did. What is the point of getting angry over something that is completely fictional? 

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

PortiaPie:  Very rarely. Like a few other posters, though, I don’t have any big celebrity crushes – I only like short men, so most male celebs don’t do anything for me. I’m bisexual, so I occasionally fantasize about women. Angelina Jolie usually does it for me.

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