Post # 1
First I want to thank ALL of you for all of your posts and opinions about Moissanite. I lurked for a few months reading all of your opinions. Because of you all, I chose and received the Moissanite Co Sol307 and I love it! It’s 1.5 unenhanced. Sometimes it’s a pale buttery color, but I love it. As some of you have agreed, the moodiness is nice. My Mom has a perfect diamond and in certain lights I don’t see much of a difference…if anything mine isn’t as steely looking in bright sunlight, but I don’t think it would mean to anyone that it’s not a diamond. My Father believes it’s a diamond and I won’t tell him; he thinks an engagement ring MUST be a diamond. Not one person has questioned it… I digress! Here is my question:
My now fiance told my MIL to be that I wanted Moissanite and he planned to buy a ring. When we became engaged 2 weeks ago today, we told his parents a few days later. His parents saw the ring, his Mom knows what it is. I really wanted to share that with her, but I feel he took that away from me. So since I didn’t say anything at the announcement…I wonder if she was thinking I was trying to pass it off as something it isn’t.
Am I being petty for wanting to have shared that with her first? I suppose I wanted to say “Look how savvy we are! It’s a gorgeous stone without being a diamond!” What say you Bees? Sorry for the long winded post!
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@8paws: In my opinion it doesn’t matter, what people think about your engagement ring and what you’re trying to “pass it off as” is there problem, as long as you love your ring and the man you’re engaged to all is well 🙂
FMIL might side-eye it if she hears you tell people it’s a diamond but you have no need to give the stats to everyone that asks to see your ring. Let them think what they want.
Post # 4
Your feelings are your feelings,but don’t let them in any way over shadow this wonderful time in your life. Just remember before she was your FMIL she was his mother and he is also allowed to discuss this amazing time in his life with his mother. Why would she think you are pulling something over her? You got engaged, what type of stone should not matter to her as long as her son is happy. If it does matter to her that is her issue.
Congrats and enjoy gawking at your ring.
Post # 5
I don’t know anyone who goes around and says “it’s a diamond!” with their new engagement ring, so I wouldn’t expect someone to say “it’s a moissanite!” either. “It’s an engagement ring!” is really all I would ever expect someone to say, and if they started rattling off stats and prices unsolicited, I would think it was kind of weird.
I think the whole drama around “passing it off” is mostly limited to these forums, and not in real life. Can you really imagine people in your life feeling cheated because your engagement ring is one stone and not another?
Post # 6
I will bet u loads of money that your mil doesnt have a problem and isnt thinking anything 🙂
Post # 7
Sounds like he was just talking things through with his Mum. Not to sound harsh but you are overthinking this! Enjoy your ring and your engagement; this is not worth stressing over! XxX
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
I think you’re fine :). Just enjoy this happy time as others have said.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
@jdhall89: Hmm this is true but I have an unusual sapphire that people guess is all sorts of other things (purple diamond, alexandrite, amethyst) so yes I do tell people “It’s a sapphire”. However I think my situation is a little odd because people dont know what it is and they either guess wrong or ask because its a moody color changing stone :).
Post # 11
You are really overreacting.
Post # 12
Honestly, I kind of think it makes sense that he would tell HIS mother about the ring HE bought to propose to you. I don’t think anyone really cares what your center stone is, or has any thoughts about you trying to pass it off. I think maybe that might be your own insecurity about. Just enjoy it, and don’t worry what anyone else thinks. I agree with a PP above..No one ever announces IT’S A DIAMOND!
Post # 14
Nope, I think you’re overreacting. There’s no reason you cannot bring up the ring during another conversation. Trust me, you and her WILL talk about your ring between now and the wedding.
Now.. let’s see some pics!! 🙂
Post # 15
@8paws: well is kinda sounds like you ARE wanting to pass it off as something else tbh. Anyhow, its his Mum so of course he can tell her about it.
Post # 16
i really dont think being engaged has to do with the ring. no one walks around going ooo look at my diamond ering! Just enjoy this time of being newly engaged! who cares if its diamond or mossey