Am I allowed to be offended?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you be offended?
    Yes : (28 votes)
    22 %
    No : (98 votes)
    78 %
  • Post # 2
    1055 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

    I think your feelings are hurt because she didnt make as big of a deal about being in your wedding? I can see where you are coming from. In terms of being “allowed” to be offended only you can decide that. It might hurt my feelings but as my mom would say. It’s not a competition.

    Post # 3
    42082 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would not be offended. I would never post anything like that myself, but apparently your friend would.

    Post # 4
    33 posts

    i would probably be a little irratated ….because i think that is a natural knee jerk reaction. but it does not mean it is justified. quite often things anger us and we need to reframe it and let time calm us. however, i think if you wait a few weeks until the post is no longer in your face, you’ll be less upset. 

    one question… are the two weddings around the same time? is part of your upset actually fear that she will now not prioritize your wedding and will neglect things for your wedding as a result?

    Post # 5
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I guess you’re allowed to feel however you want but if she’s closer to the other girl AND MOH who cares? This isnt grade school. With that said I think everyone can admit to having some sort of crazy feelings at times whether they admit to it others or not….

    Post # 6
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I might be a little miffed, but wouldn’t hold it against her.

    Post # 7
    1132 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Seattle, WA

    If anything I would think it was odd that she posted a pic of herself crying…. is that normal to cry when being asked to be someone’s MOH?  Lol I’ve never seen that reaction before.

    Post # 8
    314 posts
    Helper bee

    I would release her from being in my bridal party because as maid of honor and will be spending all her time on helping that bride.

    Post # 8
    2787 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would actually be glad she didn’t post that over the top pick about my wedding.  I think if I was the other bride I would be embarssed.  Way too over the top for my taste. 


    Post # 10
    567 posts
    Busy bee

    Candice1990:  I think it’s a little over the top she posted a picture of herself crying and we all definitely have unjustified crazy irrational feelings sometimes but I would let it go, not worth getting upset about when you’re about to begin planning a wedding where a million other things will upset you.

    Post # 11
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Candice1990:  Of I would be offended if I were in your shoes. I would probably whine about to FI, nurse my wounds, and eventually move on. 

    Post # 13
    226 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I think I’d only be offended if the two of us were really close and I’d asked her to be my MOH then she posted that reaction to being asked to be someone else’s bridesmaid -but not MOH- and also if I was pretty confident that she and the other bride weren’t very close.

    Post # 14
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I get feeling hurt, but I doubt very much she wanted to hurt you. Unless one or both of the brides are bridezillas, I don’t see why she can’t be in both parties. “Releasing” her from her obligation would be an extraordinarily nasty and stupid thing to do unless she actually asks to step down.

    Post # 15
    1178 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Her reaction to being the MOH for the other girl is definitely ove the top however, I wouldn’t be offended. You have to keep in mind that not everybody is going to be as excited as you for your upcoming wedding. Not to worry though…the bee is great for that! :o)

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