(Closed) Am I an ungrateful brat?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think that if she wants to plan a traditional bachelorette and you don’t want that – you want something with your guy friends then maybe you shouldn’t have anything.  Just make it a get together party and forget about asking her to ‘host’ anything since your styles don’t really match.  She’s probably worried as well as to try to please you while sticking to her values.  Its probably hard for her too having to invite people she doesnt know.  I say just keep it low key and invite your buddies yourself if its that casual.  You can call them up and maybe meet halfway through so the 1st half is just girls maybe.

Post # 4
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297 posts
Helper bee

@allay:  I am just wondering how on earth you met her?  Not that she’s a bad person, but it doesnt seem like you have any common ground.

She sounds like she has my grandmother’s exact personality. I don’t know what to tell ya.. ..it sounds like you may not get what you want without making her upset.  She seems incredibly resistant to go outside of her comfort zone.  I think you did the right thing by letting her plan your party and giving her direction as to what you wanted.  Seems like you may have to grin and bear it to avoid drama right before the wedding. UGH.  I feel for ya. 

Post # 5
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t think you are being an ungrateful brat.  She threw a party she semi-wanted in your honor.  It’s hard to not to feel that way when it was a nice gesture but doesn’t seem very thoughtful.  I do have one in-her-defense comment.  From how it sounds, she probably didn’t know what she was doing so I would cut her a little slack there.  I think I would get on the horn with all the people you wanted to invite and invite them.  Just say there was a mix up.

Post # 7
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2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

So it’s tonight? Have you managed to contact everyone you wanted to come? If so, then hopefully, all is not lost. If, after tonight you feel that you didn’t have the night you wanted, throw another bash (Hosted by you) and invite everyone that you want to be there. Tell your MOH that it’s a whole new party to break tradition. (As @Rgeddy suggested).

But, that being said, the night is young and I’m sure you’ll have an absolute blast tonight! Try not to worry about this and just focus on the party!! x

 

Post # 8
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Button: totally agree! you can throw a do over.  My bff has a friend exactly like that, we call her “selfish [insert name here]”. She is also awkward around anyone she doesn’t know, and anytime she does come out, she sits in the corner and mopes.  The only thing she ever wants to do is go to the club and dance so guys will look at her (we don’t club anymore, that was soooo 10 years ago!). Needless to say, bff wants to end the friendship, but she has 2 kids that she adores and wants to be in their life, so she has to put with her.

 

Post # 9
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m sorry that your MOH isn’t listening to what you want on your last night as a single lady Frown.  Maybe you could have a separate party before your wedding that’s a little less formal and just invite who you want there.  You don’t have to label it a “bachelorette” party, it could just be a night out with friends.  I hope you end up having a party you want and NOT what your MOH wants.

Post # 10
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’d be really annoyed as well. It’s your party you should invite who you wanted she shouldn’t get a say.

Although there isn’t much you can do now except last mintue invites to join in the party!

Post # 13
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2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

Is it really too late to have another one? Can you not spare another night? If not, then how about a ‘Honeymoon-hen-party’: when you are happily married have a night out with your best mates to celebrate the marriage? x

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@allay:  Yikes, it sounds like you’re almost not surprised there are problems arising.  I honestly think in these situations, if the bride is SO specific of what she wants and even though it’s unconventional —  I think the bride should have more involvement of what they want to do instead of trusting someone that you really don’t have hobbies/lifestyles/interests in common with.  I don’t think there is anything wrong with setting up the place and guest list hand in hand with the person if you feel that you are not confident in your party plans.  I think it would save a lot of hassle.  And you know what?  I think the MOH or BM or whoever would sometimes appreciate it.  Some people are just not good as party throwers. I guess this is just a general message/post because you are not the only one.  I think we’ve all read these storys and it’s sad to see the bride upset.  But nonetheless, I’m wishing you a great time tonight… drop the planning and disappointment at the door and really party it up… you deserve it!!!

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