Post # 1
Hello, so I was reading another post about a bride asking too much of her guests, and the stories were pretty similar so it made me wonder if I am asking too much of my guests.
Here is the story: My fiance and I are having a wedding weekend. We have rented some lodge type cabins for everyone. They sleep anywhere from 10-20 people. Each family will have their own, and then my fiance and I and our friends will have the bigger lodges. Each lodge is extremely nice- king beds in all rooms (there may be some queen beds thrown in) and each room has their own bathroom. There are tvs and kitchens, hot tubs, and pool tables at each cabin. Due to the price of the lodges, we requested our friends contribute to the cost (the total cost for 2 cabins for both nights is about $1700). Before we booked, we asked everyone how they felt about paying for their lodging, and everyone said no problem. We booked and informed everyone it’d be about $60 per person but that includes both nights. No one has said anything negative about paying for it, but I am afraid that like the other post, people just dont feel it is their place to bring it up to me. We did post the website with pricing for everyone to see so they know we are not pocketing any of the money. For people not interested in staying at the cabins, we have offered hotel information. We are paying for the food and it’s BYOB/L (but we are still buying some). We have not asked for gifts, and actually told everyone we would not accept them, because I feel them paying for their lodging is enough gift for us (we want those closest to us to join in on our big day). Our wedding is still about a year away (we had to book early to get lodges in the same area). Am I asking too much? I dont want to think everything is going smoothly, and then a couple months before start hearing how I am a bridezilla and this is an unreasonable request. I want everyone to enjoy themselves and have a relaxing/fun weekend (and watch us get married!).
Post # 3
@AlwaysLoverly: I dont think this is similar. In that other post the bride was charging MORE.
Post # 4
You are not asking too much at all. I couldn’t stay at home for 2 nights for $60.
You are not subsidizing the cost of the wedding by charging guests extra for their lodging.
They also have the option to stay elsewhere with your blessing.
Big difference between your situation and the other post.
Post # 5
@gelaine22: Thank you, but I just get worried that even though that other bride was charging way more, that I would be looked at in the same light. I want my guests to be comfortable and have fun, not be burdened or put off because we asked them to help pay for the cabins.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@AlwaysLoverly: The most bridezilla thing in your post is saying that you’ll refuse a gif that’s given. It’s your wedding, some people will want to give you gifts!! Don’t refuse them!
Post # 7
It’s a lot cheaper than many hotels – you’re fine.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I agree, your situation is much more friendly to your guests. Plus you’re asking $60 for 2 nights at nice lodges, the other bride was $250 (for a night? or two nights?) at a campground that slept 8 to a cabin and had communal showers, and that is a huge difference.
Post # 9
I think another major difference is that these are super nice cabins with all the amenities and the other ones the bride wanted were literally rustic log cabins that is a real kids’ camp. I would be willing to spring for accomodations like yours because at least there are multiple bedrooms with actual bathrooms (not a bathhouse). You’re also not going postal if people still want a hotel rather than the cabin.
I think you’re okay and not asking too much. It’s really not much different than having a hotel block that people can take advantage of. This is something you arranged and are offering, but guests are welcomed to do something else if they prefer.
Post # 10
I feel like u would spend more than this for a hotel room if u had to travel to go to a wedding anyway…
Post # 11
Do people have an option or way to stay one night instead of two? That might be a barrier for some people if they have to pay for pet care, etc.
Post # 12
I dont think this is too much at all. Its less than a hotel would be for 2 days and way more cooler than a hotel at that.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@AlwaysLoverly: The difference is that you inquired of your guests before committing them to paying for the cabins and you’re only asking them to pay for their lodging and BYOB/L is not unreasonable based on your venue.
Post # 14
other poster…..sounds pretty reasonable in fact $60 for a nice, private room is perfect!
Post # 15
The issue with the other post was that the bride was requesting people pay for their food and drinks for the reception.
You have simply set up accomodations. Asking people to pay for their rooms is one thing, asking for people to pay for the wedding is another.
Plus that other bride was asking people to pay $270 per person. You are asking $60 per person. You are being absolutely reasonable!
Post # 16
@crayfish: People are more than welcome to stay only one night, but my fiance and I hadnt discussed what we would do in that situation, if it’s a couple people here and there, we would ask they pay $30, if everyone wanted to start doing that, we might have to discuss other options. The cabin requires a two night minimum :/