Post # 1
Let me start by saying I don’t ever want to be one of those pregnant women who don’t do things because they are limited by their pregnancy. In general, I am up for anything that is safe for the baby and will do it pregnant or not. However, I am really dreading my holiday work party in a couple weeks. The party is always very nice and at a lovely venue. It is also a big drinking fest. I just am moody right now and starting to get 24 hour nausea and don’t want to deal with drunk people and play the political game of saying hello to all the people I work for. I have close to 1200 people in my office so aside from the smaller department I am in, no one will notice or care if I am there or not. I also am bloated and don’t want to spend time trying to find a nice, formal dress that is flattering. Am I just being a scrooge or do y’all think it is okay to skip this year? My husband wants to go because it is a very nice party with good food and alcohol, but I know he won’t push it if I say I really don’t want to go. I am thinking I am just a big old scrooge this year. 🙂
ETA- Also, no one at work knows I am pregnant and I am afraid it will be fairly obvious as I am normally a drinker. My group has a pre-party before so the people I work with closely would definitely notice. I prefer work not to know until mid-January when I am in the second trimester.
Post # 3
@hotpinkbride: I hear ya on not wanting to go to the party! I am 23w, not currently working but am very active in the local Junior League and they are having our “holiday party” in a couple of weeks at a local bar. I just can’t see myself getting all dressed up, going and dealing with all of the drunko’s. And let me tell you these Junior League ladies love to have a good time. Life gets busy around the holiday season, I’d just decline to go and say you have another obligation already. I can’t see anyone faulting you for already being “busy” that evening. I am however going to my 10 year HS reunion the Saturday after thanksgiving at a local resturant in the town I grew up in. I just found out, after buying my tickets, that the suggested dress code is cocktail attire, ugh, serioulsy, I now have to go get myself a maternity cocktail dress, you’ve got to be kidding me!
Post # 4
@hotpinkbride: Don’t worry if you dont want to go. Pregnancy is a good excuse to get out of things you dont want to do. Ill be 33 weeks at the time of my Christmas p arty. It isnt super fancy so I dont have to buy a new outfit but if I did, I probably wouldnt want to go. I am also over the no drinking thing… it’s been so long I dont really care. I was a hermit for a while in the beginning though because I do love a coctail 🙂
Post # 5
@ThePrincessBride10612: Thanks, yeah I figured no one would blink twice if I said we already have plans.
@SaraP2012: Thanks for making me feel better. I definitely don’t want to make a habit of using pregnancy as an excuse, but the party just sounds miserable to me this year.
Post # 6
If you don’t want to go and no one will miss you, don’t go!
The first trimester so pretty freaking miserable!
Post # 7
@hotpinkbride: If you don’t want to go, you have nothing to worry about – pregnancy is a good excuse.
If not going bothers you so much, do what I do (and I’m not prego): make an appearance, make the higher-ups believe that you are interested in the corporate culture, then leave early due to a “prior commitment.” I have major social anxiety (that can only be relieved with drinking), but banned myself from drinking at work functions (b/c I get carried away), so work functions are super brutal for me. I’ve learned to just make a brief appearance and then have some other commitment. Hell, you said there will be over 1k people there – I doubt anyone will notice you left early. “Have you seen hotpinkbride?” “Oh, she was just here! I’m sure she’s mingling somewhere.”
As for the drinking, drink seltzer with a lemon or something. 🙂 It looks like a vodka tonic so no one is the wiser.
Post # 8
@hotpinkbride: I think most pregnant women can relate to your feelings- it’s not easy being pregnant! Sometimes you just want to stay in and put your feet up- who wants to go out when they feel bloated?! I’d stay home- if you’re just going to be uncomfortable, it’s not worth the effort imho.
Post # 9
@hotpinkbride: Sounds alot like my work holiday party. Don’t go if youre not feeling up to it. Just say that you have another party that day or something….or get “sick”. If I were in your shoes, I would definately not go.
Post # 10
I am not going because 1, I’m not ready to tell my boss even though I will be past 12 weeks at that point, and not drinking will give it away to SOMEone. And 2, they are making us pay to bring our spouses which I think is cheap so I’m boycotting.
Post # 11
Nope, not at all! I’m not pregnant and I don’t feel like going to most functions – when I have free time, I’d much rather be with my family and friends.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone for making me feel better! I am definitely starting to feel more firm on the no, not going.
Post # 13
Not pregnant, never been pregnant and I never want to go to mine. I’m an awful person haha!
I think you have a great reason to not go!
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Post # 15
Preggers or not I don’t like going to work parties. So I don’t think you should worry.
Post # 16
With as big as your company is and with how bad you feel I say totally skip it! DHs office always has a huge drinking fest party and since he’s VP I’m obligated to go. I wish I could skip it this year( especially because I always get social anxiety without drinking) but it would be noticed.