(Closed) Am I being a bit touchy?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Oh hon, your family sounds like a mess. Any other requests that come up, just tell them you can’t. We don’t always get families who are super supportive, and when that happens, you have to draw a line and tell people no, you won’t do ____ or _______ for them. If they get all huffy, well, you’re the one with a wedding coming up.

Post # 4
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

That’s a bummer – I think that every bride should feel special on her wedding day, no matter how many times she’s walked down the aisle (you can be darn sure that Elizabeth Taylor didn’t care when it was wedding number 1, 5 or 8, she was going to be a princess and everyone was going to treat her that way!).

Maybe start by talking with your friends and say “hey, I don’t know if you were planning anything, but I’d really like some sort of bachelorette party.” Maybe they just aren’t aware of etiquette with regards to a second wedding?

And if people push back and say “well, we’ve already been through this once with you”, just respond with a smile “I appreciate your support throughout my life and am looking forward to including you as FH and I start our lives together – this is a new beginning for us and we’re hoping everyone will support us on this new journey. (now give me a shower, dammit)” – – okay, maybe you can leave that last part out Smile

Stop worrying about what others are saying/thinking/doing and just work with your FH to make your day a day that reflects who you are as a couple (even if that means undoing the church wedding).

Post # 6
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I thinkt that every woman deserves to be trated like a “Bride” on her special day. It doesn’t matter that its your second wedding, friends and family should still try to make sure this is the best occasion of your life. I think your feelings are justified, and I think you should have a serious talk with your immediate family and let them know that you aren’t feeling the special love that a wedding should brings out. I had to do this with my mom because she could care less about my wedding at first, and she is now coming around and asking me about wedding details and giving me advice and making me feel like that special bride. Just ask, and if they still don’t come around, at least you know its ginuine them and not their lack of understanding what you want/need.

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