Am I being a brat—honeymoon destinations

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 2
7286 posts
Busy Beekeeper


What about Mexico? It is on the way home and there are plenty of beautiful beach resorts. You could fly Boston to Mexico then LAX or Dallas (Qantas hub) to get home to Syd. Added plus is that it is much cheaper than Bora Bora or Hawaii.

The plus with Hawaii though is that you could fly direct home from Oahu with Jetstar. I would check out Kauai as a possible location. I loved it more than any of the other Islands of Hawaii.


Post # 3
525 posts
Busy bee

I think you need to reread this… if stop being a princess and go to hawaii is a line on this board you  need to takw a walk and return to this issue later. 

And while I think Hawaii is very lucky in itself – wanting to see bora bora is not bad, just not worth financially sinking yourself

Post # 6
525 posts
Busy bee

hmm…Ok. I am coming from a different perspective – US and just general feelings towards honeymoons. My sister did a two week lavish Hawaiin honeymoon when she got married and that is a solid 10+ hour trip from where we are in the US. My FI and I decided on a week long trip and decided that there was a certain amount of air time we liked and we did not want to break the bank going – we ended up deciding to do New Mexico, primarily Santa Fe. I spent a ton of time living in different countries and I just want to be able to relax, not use my passport, and not mess up our budget system.

BUT your dream has always been to go to Bora Bora and if that is the case then this is a good choice. The only thing I can think is that this is the first of many trips you will take with your DH and so if there is something about the timing of this one that is off then you could also plan a slightly less extravagant vacation now and a bigger vacation in 1-2 years from now (depending on when kids are happening). 

Post # 7
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I was talking to a colleague about her honeymoon the other day and they spent some time on Moorea. She wasn’t actually that impressed and said it was just so expensive for everything. She says in hindsight they should have gone to Fiji and saved a packet. I have always loved the pictures of Bora Bora though…


We went to Hawaii on the way to the US mainland last year, I’d be happy to go again but I agree that if you are likely to stop over there a lot it might be nice to see something different before you have children. 

Post # 8
7286 posts
Busy Beekeeper

  aussiejenn:  I have been to Cancun before and yes I found it party central. I haven’t been to Cabo so I can’t say what that is like. We are heading to Cozumel and the Maya Riveria in October and have been researching places to stay and there are some really nice adults only places. We are looking into holiday rentals instead as we aren;t fans of AI’s. WaitingDogMama:  Aussiejen is correct. We think nothing of flying for hours to get somewhere especially since a week long luxury holiday in Asia could cost less than a caravan (mobile) park stay in a tourist destination here. It is a long weekend this weekend and it is costing us $265 a night in a deluxe caravan down the great ocean road (which we had to book a year in advance). You don’t even wanna know what a hotel would cost. 

Post # 9
185 posts
Blushing bee

I don’t think you’re being a princess by wanting to go somewhere you haven’t been, but sometimes cost/function/convenience makes the most sense.

I really wanted to go somewhere I haven’t been for our honeymoon–problem being I’ve traveled to many of the honeymoon destinations that are convenient to our location. FI on the other hand has traveled very little. When we talked about our priorities for our honeymoon, he said he wanted somewhere convenient with a direct flight, and to be on a beach. I said I wanted an all-inclusive somewhere I hadn’t been before, which left us with a handful of Caribbean islands. When all was said and done, though, it made the most sense for us to go to Riviera Maya, Mexico, where I actually have been before. But we’re chosing a different resort and I’ll be there with him, so I trust that it will be different and unique and special.

You didn’t say you’ve been to Kauai before, why not base your honeymoon there for something different? And PS, I would have LOVED to spend my honeymoon in Hawaii! Unfortunately flight costs (and for my FI, flight time) was prohibitive.

Post # 10
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014


aussiejenn:  I don’t think you’re being a brat.

It IS a once in a lifetime trip and if you have the funds, do what you want because like you said, you may not be able to ever again.

I’m kind of in your boat, but opposite. FI wants to go to either Bora Bora or Maldives for a week, I want to do something more adventureous, like New Zealand or Australia. He’s already picked our DW wedding spot, the resort we’re getting married at, and even the save the date designs! I say it’s my turn to pick something!

Post # 11
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

aussiejenn:  I am doing the overwater bungalows in Bora Bora and Morrea! You (hopefully) only get married once so don’t short change yourself on the honeymoon!

Post # 12
2070 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

Go for Bora Bora! Everyone we know who’s gone there has RAVED about it. I fully believe #yolo when it comes to traveling. Don’t go into debt over your honeymoon – but if you can afford it, go for it. We went on an expensive honeymoon (to Australia, haha!) and it was worth every single penny. I don’t know when we’ll have the money or vacation time to go back, so the honeymoon was a great excuse to go to NZ and Oz, which have always been on our bucket list. So I guess I’m an enabler 🙂

mdcmod:  We went to NZ and Oz for our honeymoon, and it was super romantic – I highly recommend going there!

Post # 13
817 posts
Busy bee


I love Cabo!! It’s beautiful… I’ve only been with my parents a couple times so I didn’t exactly get a chance to visit the nightlife, but the beaches are beautiful and there’s tons of activities and great food!

Post # 14
3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Perhaps you can take a trip in the opposite direction? Bermuda is just a few hours from Boston and it’s gorgeous! You could get really cheap tickets out there as well – we were there two years ago and paid less than $200 per person (flying out from Toronto).

Post # 15
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I was also going to chime in with Maldives or perhaps Mauritius or Seychelles? 

<br />Part of the reason we actually skipped BoraBora was because of the amount of time we’d lose traveling.  With the vacation we were able to take (about 10 days) we’d only get 5-6 days in Bora Bora.  We ended up in South Africa instead.

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