(Closed) Am I being a bridezilla?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

I dont think youre being a bridezilla. I’d be pretty annoyed too.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

As far as the “Tiffany Blue” thing goes, I was actually looking at it for my own wedding and pool is in fact the closest color David’s Bridal has to it. Actually, Tiffany blue is a very specific shade of teal, so you guys had the same color the whole time.

I’m not sure which flower you’re talking about, but most people use a small variety of flowers for weddings, so it might have been just a coincidence.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just don’t tell her anymore of your ideas.  You might even think about changing your colour if you really want to have more differences

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Keep your mouth shut 😀 This will probably leave her lost and she may even come to you for help about some things. Try to keep the details to yourself, it will make it a great surprise to everyone. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

All my wedding ideas were stolen by a friend who used them not for the wedding, but for her morning after brunch. So I know how you feel.

At the same time, you’ve got to accept that there’s nothing you can really do if she steals something except not talk about your plans with her (or give her “decoy” plans) from here on out.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I would be pissed and no, you certainly don’t sound like a bridezilla.  Going forward share your wedding planning with no one.  Which sucks, because your aunt talks to your mom…….. 

I think she’s insecure and trying to compete with you.

That said, check out other stores for your original teal color.  Include another pop of color if you so desire…..yellow would be wonderful, I think.  Mix up your flowers…there are so many lovely flowers and choices.  It’s unfortunate that you are having to deal with this and that it is distracting from your job.  Talk to your mom and caution her from sharing your planning ideas with aunt. 

Sorry you are dealing with this……. hugz…    

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’d be super annoyed as well…..and yes, sadly, you better keep all your wedding planning top secret or else you’re going to go crazy!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Just try to stay calm and relax. It’s annoying, but it happens. My cousin just got married to his fiance and the same things are happening to me. She picked the same color, a similar style dress, did her hair and makeup how I want mine etc. etc.

In the end I just chalked it up to the fact that he’s family and he picked a girl that fits in with my family…hence her similar taste. I’ve now changed my colors and I’m chainging the way I am going to do my hair.

If you’re really worried about being unique then change your colors if it’s not too late. I know for us it wasn’t a huge deal to change the colors because we had originally had a few different ideas tossed around to begin with anyway.

Whatever you do don’t be mean to her. She’s planning her big day just like you and even if it seems annoying to you she might really be harmless and oblivious to the annoyances she’s causing you. Just lift your head up high and proceed forward…don’t let this rain on your parade (it only will if you let it!).

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree that the David’s Bridal pool loks a lot like Tiffany Blue.  Also, maybe I’m in the minority here, I don’t think you can argue that she “stole” your month since she booked before you, and like jo.lee said, most people use a variety of flowers for their wedding.  I can see how it could be annoying, but no one has exclusive rights to certain types flowers.

Maybe she is trying to take ideas from you, and maybe not — but it seems like this is may be stemming from your annoyance that they got engaged so quickly.  Like other people have said, just keep planning your wedding the way you want and don’t tell anyone what you’re doing.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

duplicate post.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It sucks, but you can’t change what’s already done, so here are some options:

  • You could proceed as planned (date, color, flowers), and live with it. But I’m pretty sure that would prolong your resentment and take away from your enjoyment of both weddings, so I don’t recommend that route.
  • You could change your date. To late May or early June (heehee). Or make it even later to put more distance between the weddings. But that might not be so easy.
  • Your could combine the teal with another color that will make it look very unique, like coral or pewter or red (I love teal and red!). Maybe choose a two-tone bridesmaid dress (I believe David’s offers these). 
  • You could change your color altogether. (This would be my choice.) It’s just a color, after all. If you like shades of blue, maybe go more towards periwinkle or royal blue. Or choose a completely different color. Then drop the hint that you’re changing your color because you’ve realized that tiffany blue is just  “SO COMMON” these days and you wanted to make your wedding a little different (but don’t reveal your choice until it’s too late for her to change hers). If you browse some color inspiration boards, you are bound to fall in love with another color combination – I promise!
  • Same for the flowers – there are SO MANY gorgeous flowers, it shouldn’t be hard to choose something else you love, or to come up with a unique combination that incorporates your original choice.

As for going forward, stop sharing details about your decisions with her until she has already committed to hers. It’s clear that she isn’t being considerate of you, so don’t give her another chance to cause you angst.

Enjoy, and good luck!

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