Am I Being a Bridezilla?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1248 posts
Bumble bee

@June14Bride:  Have these girls EVER been in a wedding before?? Sounds like they are just ignorant to the whole process. You are right on point with everything you are asking of them. They are being bitches. Maybe get your cooperative BM to contact the other girls. Do you have a MOH? Have her talk with the other girls & ‘put them in their place’ so to speak. They need to get their shiz together & realize this is not about them & dresses HAVE to be ordered at a certain time, and all together so they come out the same color. I would be strangling some bishes right now if i were you lol

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@June14Bride:  I personally think your girls are out of line and being unfair to you. I don’t think picking the color or fabric/designer is unreasonable ESPECIALLY because within those parameters they have 36 options. I’d tell her you’re sorry it came off ‘bitchy’ and then forward along the producuction times for the dresses.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@June14Bride:  hmm…it would all depend on wording 

this could either be the case of you not writing things to them in a way that is kind or it could be that they are just difficult

I don’t have a black and white answer to your question so I will just suggest thinking up better ways to discuss everything

Post # 6
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689 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House

@Payless:  Yeah, same. 

I think that the number of different things you have said to them ARE a little confusing. Which doesn’t necessarily mean that they are in the right. First you want them to decide, then you pick something, after one girl has already purchased something (which wasn’t what you’d asked for, but you never told her no?).

However, we didn’t read the email to your girls, but giving you the benefit of the doubt, and saying you were nice, then your MOH is out of line. Maybe she never got the memo about the chiffon and was still under the impression they could select something?

I think you all need to get on the same page. And you need to explain that the dresses will not come in for some time, and this needs to happen quickly. They can lose weight later.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@June14Bride:  I don’t think you’re being a bitch. I think they need to realize that you are trying to plan a wedding – YOUR wedding and they need to be more flexible/cooperative. I would talk to them and just explain that they are the ones making it more difficult. Good luck! I hope they change their ways.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@June14Bride:  It started off complicated. I think you gave them way too many choices to begin with letting them look at styles and fabric and picking what they liked. Then you said grey chiffon. If the other 3 didn’t have grey chiffon they probably would be quite let down.

That being said, it doesn’t sound like they really know weddings very well. You’ve told them the color and fabric, and they need to order their dress so it gets here in time. I would just tell them, “I really valued everyone’s opinions, but we will be going with grey chiffon fabric. Please order by such and such date. Thank you, ladies!”

If they choose not to order then I guess they don’t have a dress which menas they don’t stadn up there.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

LOL they sound like whiney babies if you ask me!!

Post # 11
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10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Ummm you sound pretty easy. Pick one of 36 dresses, how hard or demanding is that! They are just being whiny and complaining for no reason. 

Post # 13
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think you’re being bitchy, but I do think you are far too worried about being a bridezilla, and it’s making things confusing. First it was any dress as long as it wasn’t black or purple, then it had to be long and have a 1920’s “feel”, then it couldn’t be tight, then it was definitely grey. 

Honestly, just pick a dress and tell them that is it. Save yourself all this back and forth.

Post # 14
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2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

No, you can’t get a bridesmaid dress (easily) off a wrack, espeically in a particular color and fabric.  Most stores don’t keep them on hand other than samples as you have to order them in in the color you want. 

ETA- at least not for three girls if you want the same/similar dress.  And they aren’t going to keep size 0 on the wrack.  They are going to be around 10 or 8 for the majority because that is the size most people are.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@June14Bride:  At this point, I think you need to pick a dress and tell them that is the dress they’re wearing and to please have it ordered by X date. They’re being ridiculous!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I think things got a little complicated.  Get them all on the same page.  The dress must be in grey and chiffon.  It must be flowy/1920s.  Here are the 36 options you can pick from.  Order by February or else the dress will not come in on time.  (I’m not sure how to phrase it, but I would allude to the fact that if they don’t have an appropriate dress, they can’t play the role of BM.  Maybe that if they can’t order a dress by February, you take that as their subtle sign of stepping down from position… Maybe some other Bee can give a better suggestion.)

No, they won’t be able to just walk in an grab a grey, chiffon, flowy dress off the rack a week before and have it fit perfectly.  I mean, they might, but if they couldn’t walk out and find one this week, they wouldn’t be able to in June.

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