Am I being a bridezilla?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Ladybird_:  If you want her to wear a kitten heel, she should do it. It is your wedding and not hers. I made compromise with my girls that they had to wear heels during the ceremony and pictures but could change into sneakers or no shoes after. Heck if I care.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Ladybird_:  Could you suggest that she wear a heel for the ceremony and photos and then she can change into her flats for the reception when she would, presumably, be near her husband?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Ladybird_:  if the dresses are long no one will see the shoes. Also, no one will care if they can see them. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

@Ladybird_:  Meh I think as long as their dresses are hemmed correctly for whatever shoes they wear, flats included, it should look fine. You don’t even see the shoes that much with a long dress. I think it’s a little much to demand a heel. My MOH can’t wear heels because she literally can’t walk in them (even a kitten heel) and I’m fine with that. I don’t think it’s too much to ask her to choose a more formal pair of flats than her old ballet flats though.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I am also having long dresses and personally, I don’t care if they wear heels or flats because you can’t really see the shoes.

I don’t think you are being a bridezilla. But if you can, maybe offer a compromise – she wears heels for the photos and the ceremony, and then can switch to flats other times? Just a thought!

Post # 8
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657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@cantonbride:  

100% you won’t see the shoes if they have long dresses, let alone the heel in the back

I would let it go

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Ladybird_:  You can tell her you would prefer a heel but ultimately, the choice is hers.

Post # 10
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8592 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

If they’re long dresses, who is going to see their shoes?  No one cares what shoes the BM’s wear anyway.  No one will notice what shoes the BM are wearing.

I looked through my pictures, you can’t see their shoes.

Otherwise you can request if for the ceremony and pictures but they should be allowed to wear whatever shoes they want for the reception.  I think that would be a reasonable compromise.

Post # 11
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339 posts
Helper bee

Can you see the shoes with the dresses? If not then it shouldnt matter. If you can then she should honor your request and wear heels. You can tell her she can change later? sidebar: is her husband escorting her up the aisle?? I dont see why he should care if he isnt.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t think it is reasonable to DEMAND things, but I don’t think it is reasonable for her to not just do what you ask for 12 hours. You aren’t a bridezilla IMO. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t think you’re being a bridezilla to want that. It’s no different to me than having them wear a specific dress. But I agree with other posters who suggest a compromise. My bff is very tiny and she wanted us all to wear flats. Only a couple bridesmaids had issue with that, but they just ended up wearing heels during the reception after all the pictures were taken and it was fine.

Post # 14
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3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I typically wear flats with long dresses. The dresses are long, no one will see them. Let her wear what she wants. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think you’re being unreasonable. No one will even be able to see their shoes in long dresses. Flats can be dressy. My MOH is wearing flats because I told her that I didn’t give an eff what type of shoe she wore. Why does it even matter that she wears heels? If you want her to wear a specific shoe, then you should buy them for her.

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I hate kitten heels – I have a hard time balancing in them.
I’d be upset if you insisted on my wearing them over flats – what’s the difference with a long dress, really??

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