- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
My MOH and husband seem to be going through a rought time. Both are in our wedding, he is one of our groomsmen. My FI and him went to college together, and my MOH and I have been friends since we were 8?
My FI got a call from him the other night to have him ask me to call her. Something had happend, that indicated she was caught cheating on him. He wanted me to call her to see if she was okay (he was pissed but still cared about her) My FI went to go be with him, I called her she didn’t want to talk about it and said she would call me in a few days.
While its been a few days, her and I text each other daily usually about our day. I basically told her I was curious and im here for her, if she would like to talk or hang out. I offered to hang out several times but shes either not avaialbe or doesn’t want to.
My FI knows more information but won’t discuss it with me, which is understandable. Her husband has talked to me a little bit.
I am feeling useless as a best friend, I got jealous of the fact that he was able to go and be there for his friend when I couldn’t, not that I didn’t try. I would hope she would have been comfitable talking to me about things but can understand why she wouldn’t want to (since FI is friends with him).
Plus this sounds so out of character of her to begain with. I am waiting to hear her side of the story. It just makes no sense to me.
Trying to stay mutaral and waiting…feeling like I have been a terriable friend or am a terriable friend.
He has offered to resign as a groomsmen, we basically told him not to even worry about it right now, and that we are more worried about them.
I feel guilty for talking to him about it but not her, I’ve offered and haven’t asked, as I don’t want to push her away.
FI and I dun want to discuss it too much with each other either, as is it not really our business to begain with, and basically don’t want to be in the middle.
Bees- Am I being a terriable friend?