- 3 years ago
- Wedding: Haddington
I’ve been trying really hard throughout my planning process to not be the dreaded “bridezilla”! <br />
With a long engagement I’ve been concious of not letting the wedding take over ie. talking about the small details, planning process etc every time I see my bridesmaids, but as it gets nearer (7 months to go now) obviously I’m getting down to things like picking my dress, accessories, flowers, invites.
However, one BM has really annoyed me with her attitude and I want to know am I being unreasonable to get offended or is she out of line?
Here’s the context:
1. When it came to shopping for BM dresses (which I payed for) we picked a date that worked for all the girls, not easy when one lives in London and another in Aberdeen, two days before she says she’s working that day and can’t come, which is fine as these things happen, but we had to go anyway as the other girls had arranged their transport. When I tried to rearrange for just me and her to go to the place, it’s literally a five minute walk from her apartment she had excuse after excuse why she couldn’t go this time or that time, and in the end I had to order without her trying it on.
2. This week I had to send round an email asking the wedding party to confirm their hotel rooms, to which she rang me to say “Why are you making me pay for something I don’t want?” I was so shocked I couldn’t even reply, this is the girl who insists we all travel away for a weekend when it comes to her bday, swanky hotels a must, usually around mid december, no regards to how expensive Christmas is for most of us!
3. I’ve spent all week eyeing up wedding invitations and thinking I’d order them during Black Friday deal time to save some money, kind of annoying myself with all the hours spent browsing and not being able to choose, I sent through a few of my favourites on a group chat for some opinions to help me choose. Her reply: ” I hate them all. Like HATE them. They’re just no”. Then tonight she text me to ask if I wnated to do something and I replied saying “sorry I’ve just paid for invites so will have to pass”. Her reply. “did you get those ones?????? Fuck you got the hand painted ones didn’t you?????” I replied (trying to be cheerful) “You’ll have to wait and seeee! To be honest I picked the ones me and FI loved and didn’t consult as I didn’t really want any more opinions, when you see them you’ll just accept it! haha xx” Her reply “what the fuck? why are you making such a huge deal it’s just paper”
And I agree that invitations are not the most important detail, but they are important to me! I try so hard not to get caught up in things because I realise how much it can bore people but I was really quite hurt by her text, am I being touchy?
Sorry for huge long post, needed to vent! x