Post # 1
I am having an outside ceremony in June and with my bridesmaids we picked out their dresses. Now a few months later, I HATE THEM!!! They are only from David’s Bridal and have not been altered but they are still non-returnable! Which is sooo stupid!! They just shipped them from their warehouse! Why can’t they just send them back! I don’t see what the big deal is! So I’m pissed about that and now I want them to get different dresses! I don’t know what to do! It is my wedding… if I make them buy different dresses does that make me a bitch? I could probably sell the damn dresses on craigslist or something anyways right?
Post # 3
Yes. You can’t make them pay for new dresses – sorry. You can pay for new ones. Well actually, you can do whatever you want, but be prepared for some serious backfiring from your ladies. I’d be pissed if a bride made me pay for one dress, decided she didn’t like it, then asked me to pay for another.
Post # 4
If you are willing to pay them for the first dress or buy the second dress, then I think it would be fine to change to dress. If not then yes, it is way too much to expect them to pay for 2 dresses for your wedding.
Post # 5
I think if you want to change the dress at this point you need to eat the costs. Buy the new dresses, have the girls give you their old dresses and you can attempt to sell them to get some money back. I would be pissed if the bride expected me to pay for two dresses because she changed her mind.
Post # 6
Are you planning to reimburse the BM’s for their originial dresses? Or had you planned on footing the bill for new ones? Really, the only way to make a last-minute dress change is to make sure your ladies aren’t out any money (without looking like a brat anyway). What about the dresses do you suddenly hate, that you didn’t hate when they were ordered? What do the BM’s think?
Post # 7
Personally, I’d be extremely upset if I dropped money on a bridesmaids dress that I couldn’t get refunded just to go out and buy a new one. If you want different dresses, I think you should offer to pay for them.
Post # 8
I agree with kag, you really shouldn’t ask them to pay for another dress. If you decide to buy the dress for them that’s fine.
Post # 9
Yeah, if a bride asked me to pay for a dress and then after all transactions were done, she asked me to pay for ANOTHER one… I’d drop out of the wedding. I can only afford so much! Plus, they wouldn’t know if you’d end up changing your mind yet again later on…
Post # 9
IF you could sell the dresses and get full refunds to your girls then I guess you could get new dresses. OR if you are willing to pay for the new dresses then go for it. Otherwise, expecting your girls to pay for a second dress is a definitely NO. Didn’t you pick out the dresses in the store originally? What was wrong with them when they arrived?
Post # 9
I would wait to see if they look better when altered. If you are going to make them purchase new dresses then I think you need to reimburse them for the dresses they have already purchased or you need to pay for the new dresses you want them to wear. I definitely think it is out of the question to expect them to purchase two dresses.
Post # 10
If you pay for the new dresses, then that would be fine. But I think if you make your maids buy their own new dress, then yes, you’re being a bridezilla. Sorry, but it’s enough that they paid for one of your choosing. They shouldn’t have to pay for two.
Post # 11
I’d be happy to be a BM for a friend, and I’d budget carefully in order to be able to do so, meaning that I absolutely would not be able to afford paying for more than one dress. I know David’s is pretty upfront about their return policy, so the burden of this change of heart really shouldn’t fall on your girls.
Post # 12
@terilynn20: “If I make them buy different dresses does that make me a bitch?”
Yep. They bought they dresses that you okayed. It’s not their fault that you changed your mind. If you want a different dress then you have to buy them. As for Davids “stupid” policy, every single bridal shop I’ve ever encountered has the same policy. All sales final. It’s nothing new.
Post # 12
No, just no. If YOU buy them new dresses then yes Bridezilla but no one is harmed from it so not a huge deal. But you can’t ask your girls to buy another dress. Well I guess you can, but hopefully they have good sense and will tell you heck no.
Post # 13
Sure, who wouldn’t want to purchase two bridemaids dresses that you can never wear again!? 😉
Seriously though, what made you decide you didn’t like them anymore? A picture or actually seeing them on your BM’s? Have them try them on again for you to see and maybe you will feel the same way you did when you originally picked them. I don’t think you can ask them to purchase another dress on top of the dress they already bought. Sorry.