(Closed) Am i being childish?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee

I have no idea if you are childish, as I can’t understand your post. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why don’t you tell him you’re not getting married unless it’s summer? Why does he decide the wedding date?

As for the proposal, sorry but that’s how many guys are. I was proposed to in a car. I think we get our hopes too high thanks to movies and youtube.

Post # 5
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Newbee

@happynsoconfused:  I’m with Milo, it would have been a lot easier to read, if you had used paragraphs and proof-read your text.

(I’m not saying my English is perfect either, I’m not a native.)

I do agree his proposal and the way he showed the ring were dumb, but like paula said, that’s what most guys are like.. They just don’t get it how important it would feel. I’d take up the issue with him, as you said you two can talk about anything.

Maybe he’d realize that he could make up some of his mistakes when the ring arrives.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have no idea what you are saying or talking about. It takes way too much concentration to try to decifer your words.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

Real life isn’t like the movies so you need to get over the proposal and just celebrate that you are getting married.

As for the wedding- well finances and financial security are a really good reason to delay but if all that matters to you is the marriage (and not the wedding) then go to the courthouse and get married.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have a headache.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

That was challenging to read, but I got through it!

You’re getting a ring now, so let the proposal and previous lack of a ring be in the past. Get your ring and be happy you’re engaged.

As for the wedding – you get a say in the date too. Having it pushed back due to money issues is definitely understandable, but if you don’t want a winter wedding, then don’t have one. Wait a bit longer and get married when it’s warmer.

But if you want to be married earlier more than you want a summer wedding, then deal with the January date. Decide what is more important to you. Either way you end up married in the end!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I was proposed to eating a Big Mac. It was horrible. I would definitely say something to him if you want a ‘special’ proposal but be prepared to wait (patiently) for a bit longer while he plans something.

as for pushing the date back, perhaps you could aim for a spring wedding instead? You should decide the date together and write up a budget so you can realistically plan.

and definitely proof read your next posts, that was so difficult to read!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I was proposed to in the kitchen after I’d just yelled at fiance – imperfect proposals are very, very common. Sure, I wish he had timed it better, but at the end of the day, I’m engaged to an amazing guy.

As for the wedding planning issues – as others have said, you get a say in the wedding plans too. If you don’t like the date, don’t sit and sulk (I’ve wallowed in self-pity with wedding plans too, and it sucks). Talk with your fiance and let him know what you like/don’t like and go from there.

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Okay, well, this was complicated to read, so I’m sorry if i missed the point.

Basically, he ordered you a ring, you’re waiting for a proposal, and finances necessitates you pushing back the wedding.  If you don’t want a January wedding, why not push it back a bit longer to get a spring wedding?  The last few months will fly by, and it sounds like you’d enjoy the wedding more if there was nice weather.  Or, as PPs have suggested, you could elope or have a courthouse ceremony with your close friends and family.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I stopped reading a couple sentences in. I can’t understand a word of this.

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