(Closed) Am I being crazy?!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Am I being selfish about this?
    Yes, who do you think you are?! : (8 votes)
    50 %
    No, he is the one being selfish. : (4 votes)
    25 %
    Other-please explain : (4 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    Honestly, a week before our wedding I was done. I’m a planner, I do everything ahead of time and early, and unless it was something that had to be done the day before (putting flowers together), it was done. I do realize that most people aren’t like that though. If he really wants to go, I would tell him that he has to help get everything done by a week before your wedding.

    Post # 5
    Member
    6598 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    The weekend before my wedding I didn’t do anything wedding related other than have my bridal shower.

    2 of our guests got married the weekend after us and attended our wedding (2 hour drive where they had a hotel). I honestly think if you wanted to attend this wedding you could no problem. However, it seems like you don’t want to attend the wedding due to not knowing the couple (which is a different story).

    Could your FI go and you stay home?

    Post # 6
    Member
    3526 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think it depends. If it was a good friend or first cousin/relative then yes I would definitely go. We had a cousin who did a quickie wedding (everyone heard about it 2months before our wedding!) and their date was TWO weeks before ours in NYC. I’m still convinced my aunt did that intentionally so that her son would technically be married before me. So we drove 8hrs to go to the wedding in NYC, drove back home. Then a week later drove 8 hrs again back to NYC for our wedding. Annoying but sometimes it has to be done.

    I would talk to your Fiance and see how important it really is. Is this perhaps someone that use to be a good friend and they had a falling out and that’s why you never heard of him? It’s possible.

    And I agree with @artbee: if that’s the case then he has to promise that everything will be done a week before in order for you guys to go.

    And I guess I would ask you, if it was your friend/family would you feel differently? Would you have so quickly said no?

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    7976 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    We went out of town the weekend before our wedding! To be honest, it was a GREAT time to relax and let some of the nerves settle, and a really nice chance to remember why I was marrying this guy (i.e. focusing on each other instead of all the details of the wedding).

    If you plan accordingly, you should be able to accomplish everything you need to and still make the trip. 🙂

    Post # 9
    Member
    4510 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We also went out of town the weekend before our wedding. I wouldn’t worry about it, plus it might be fun! Definitely better than staying home and fretting over a bunch of details. By T minus 1 week, you’ve got to just let everything go.

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