AM I being CRAZY? There is gonna be B*tches at my wedding!:(

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@BrideToBe14:  Why stress about it? You said there are going to be 200 people invited, pay attention to the the other 198 and ignore the 2. I wouldn’t change a thing about my wedding because I was afraid of how someone “might” act.

Post # 4
5905 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@BrideToBe14:    Serioulsy, you’re being crazy…stop it.  You can’t stop people from taking full, sloshing advantage of your open bar and if you think seating them apart is going to work, ask any 2nd grade teacher what the success rate of that schtick is….don’t stick your thumb in the bottles at a party, you don’t want to come off as a stingey hostess….and if you treat people like little kids with the booze, they’ll find the nearest door as soon as you cut the cake and snap the garter…its a party, not a royal coronation.

Post # 6
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Honestly with 200 people, you are not even going to notice them.  If they are childish enough to order drinks just to run up their tab, it will only look bad on them.  How will you even know?  Don’t worry about it.  Things must be going really well with your wedding planning for you to even consider worrying about a possibility such as this.

Post # 8
397 posts
Helper bee

I’m really scared of my open bar as well….and I’m not even wedding planning yet!!

The only thing you can do is close it a little earlier…you know how, the more people drink…the MORE they continue to drink?  Im also having mine on a Sunday in hopes that it deters some from getting wasted cuz they have to work the next day. *sigh* I know soooo many major drinkers, I shudder at the thought of my bill.

Just think that, a lot of people at your wedding WON”T be drinking at all.. so whatever those girls drink in excess, is like as if the non-drinkers had some and the girls only had a couple…it’ll even out Undecided

Post # 10
6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yeah with that many people they’d have to be throwing your cake or dancing naked on some tables for you to even notice.  Besides how were you going to get around inviting them to your wedding if they are FI’s friends wives… and even if you put them at different tables, you do know they will wind up together. Hopefully with 200 people there will be a line for the bar.

I would warn the planner about them tho, maybe she can give the bartenders a clue. They have a responsibility about over serving or seeing ID’s also. 

Post # 12
7896 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

are the invites out? Do you HAVE TO invite them? These are people he regularly hangs with? How is that for you!? I dont think I’d allow anyone who treated me like that to be invited- I dont care who theyre married to.

But if its too late… then I would just seat them all far far away from you and ignore them.

I was wondering (for myself as well)… does the open bar have to start during cocktail hour? What if thats just wine/beer and a signature drink and then open bar happened during/after dinner.



Post # 14
5207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@BrideToBe14:  I think you should concentrate on yourself and your new husband and not worry about them.

Post # 15
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@BrideToBe14:  with that size of wedding, you won’t even notice them. 

i do like your idea of seating them at separate tables far from each other.  misery loves company so why fuel it?  without their allie nearby, they will have to behave.

Post # 16
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@BrideToBe14:  then they served wine to women.

… huh? Like… waiters passed wine, but… only to women?  

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