Post # 1
I know I should of thought about this before I invited 200 people to my wedding….
But i am started to have nightmares about some of the people that are going to be at my wedding involving my open bar…
Particularly two girls that are both alcoholics that are wives of two my fiance’s friends…
Both of the girls are not very nice to me and I have heard from a mutual friend both of the girls said they are planning to get “wasted” at my wedding…
They have always been rude to me and I know they don’t care for me…but they have to come bc they are my fiance’s friends wives.
I have thought about separating them at the wedding…? But not making it look like on purpose, like maybe at the same table but far away from each other or at tables next to each other…
One of them in particular is so bitchy to me, I am afraid she is just going to get a bunch of drinks (at $7) a piece and just leave them all over the venue…
This would totally be something she would do, bc she is a mean girl like that and would love to fuck up our wedding…
I have also thought about showing my planner what the girls look like ( apic) in case they start acting out of hand or something…
What do you think?
AM i just being Crazy?
I know I have NO CONTROL over the way they act and I AM offering a open bar so i shouldn’t regulate it….
But is there anyway to help people not get as DRUNK so FAST at my wedding…
Like maybe ending cocktail hour early….
Or not opening the open bar until everyone is seated at the reception
Or only passing out wine and beer and not opening the open bar until dinner is served
Or only having One bar???
Post # 3
@BrideToBe14: Why stress about it? You said there are going to be 200 people invited, pay attention to the the other 198 and ignore the 2. I wouldn’t change a thing about my wedding because I was afraid of how someone “might” act.
Post # 4
@BrideToBe14: Serioulsy, you’re being crazy…stop it. You can’t stop people from taking full, sloshing advantage of your open bar and if you think seating them apart is going to work, ask any 2nd grade teacher what the success rate of that schtick is….don’t stick your thumb in the bottles at a party, you don’t want to come off as a stingey hostess….and if you treat people like little kids with the booze, they’ll find the nearest door as soon as you cut the cake and snap the garter…its a party, not a royal coronation.
Post # 5
@MelBan: Thanks for your advice..:)
Post # 6
Honestly with 200 people, you are not even going to notice them. If they are childish enough to order drinks just to run up their tab, it will only look bad on them. How will you even know? Don’t worry about it. Things must be going really well with your wedding planning for you to even consider worrying about a possibility such as this.
Post # 7
@louisianablue: LOL, i wish I could say things are going so well that I am worrying about this! LOL I still have so much to do, aaaahhh!
I dont know why I was having nightmares about this last night:(
Post # 8
I’m really scared of my open bar as well….and I’m not even wedding planning yet!!
The only thing you can do is close it a little earlier…you know how, the more people drink…the MORE they continue to drink? Im also having mine on a Sunday in hopes that it deters some from getting wasted cuz they have to work the next day. *sigh* I know soooo many major drinkers, I shudder at the thought of my bill.
Just think that, a lot of people at your wedding WON”T be drinking at all.. so whatever those girls drink in excess, is like as if the non-drinkers had some and the girls only had a couple…it’ll even out
Post # 9
@Nona99: Lol…that picture….
Post # 10
Yeah with that many people they’d have to be throwing your cake or dancing naked on some tables for you to even notice. Besides how were you going to get around inviting them to your wedding if they are FI’s friends wives… and even if you put them at different tables, you do know they will wind up together. Hopefully with 200 people there will be a line for the bar.
I would warn the planner about them tho, maybe she can give the bartenders a clue. They have a responsibility about over serving or seeing ID’s also.
Post # 11
@westcoast_girl: Thank you for the positive comments.
Its funny bc a ton of people it thought NO way were coming are ALL coming and its really starting to sink in how much the open bar will cost..
I have noticed at a wedding i went to…
that had only ONE open bar the whole night, so people had to wait in line, then they served wine to women.
I thought this was a good way to keep people from ordering drinks and leaving them all over the venue without drinking them…bc if you have to wait in line behind 5 people before u get a drink, u prob will hold onto that drink and actually finish it?
I have thought about this way too much ahhahah
Post # 12
are the invites out? Do you HAVE TO invite them? These are people he regularly hangs with? How is that for you!? I dont think I’d allow anyone who treated me like that to be invited- I dont care who theyre married to.
But if its too late… then I would just seat them all far far away from you and ignore them.
I was wondering (for myself as well)… does the open bar have to start during cocktail hour? What if thats just wine/beer and a signature drink and then open bar happened during/after dinner.
Post # 13
@HisIrishPrincess: Thanks good idea. Yeah true I probably won’t even notice them…
I honestly wish she wouldn’t even come. She knows I know she doesn’t like me…so why she is even coming?? Only for the free booze and wine..
Post # 14
@BrideToBe14: I think you should concentrate on yourself and your new husband and not worry about them.
Post # 15
@BrideToBe14: with that size of wedding, you won’t even notice them.
i do like your idea of seating them at separate tables far from each other. misery loves company so why fuel it? without their allie nearby, they will have to behave.
Post # 16
@BrideToBe14: then they served wine to women.
… huh? Like… waiters passed wine, but… only to women?